Excuse me sir. I know it is unusual to respond to a man at this site. But my post is for everyone. I read your post and I was struck by it. You sound so much like me years ago.

I have come to these sites with my heart. Only to have it trampled upon. Eric, not everyone is true. You have to remember that. And we have to understand men are different than women. Beautiful women like to be sexy. Of course sex, is not love. And I learned that one the hard way. You can weed through the letters you get sir. You can find the one that is about love and not sex. You can find a woman who is caring and who is trying to see you for what is inside. That does not mean she will not be sexy. That does not mean she will not be beautiful.

It means you have to look with your mind as well as your heart. So you cannot be biased against women simply because they are beautiful and sexy. Or if they want to talk about sex sometimes in letters. One thing men can thank God for is our minds. We should never forget to think logically when conducting our search. When you look through the profiles here and questions enter your brain, follow those questions. When you are talking with a woman and something strikes you as weird, do what you can to find out what is happening. You are right. Love and sex are two different things. When a woman is seeking love, there can be no doubt about it. You won't have questions about what she is seeking. Her search, mirrors yours. You know when a woman is writing from her heart or not.

So when looking at the profiles here. Think. If you were a beautiful woman and you were truly lonely and looking for love. How would you write a letter? How would you conduct your search? What would you do, if you found the man you thought was right for you? Would you send him a bunch of senseless letters? Or would you try to find out how to be with him no matter what stood in you way? And the same for a woman here. If a man wants to be with you, he will be willing to do whatever it takes to travel to see you. He will not make excuses or avoid a face to face meeting.

The answers are plain. Don't avoid them. And use that as your guide.

It is something we avoid doing because we American men prefer to be lovestruck. We don't get this kind of attention from women, especially beautiful ones normally. So we tend to go overboard and forget our brains.

Always keep your wits about you, always analyze, always keep your options open.

Thank you for your post sir. And good luck in your search. All of us seeking love need luck and God's blessing. So much is against us.