And not so long ago, I came up with a brilliant idea: there are no right decisions as there are no wrong ones.
We make choices and it has consequences. But the idea that the choice may be right is just a fairy tale that we comfort ourselves with.
The choice can be justified or random. The result of it can be unexpectedly pleasant or disappointing.
All these are just moments of life. Something may be a little worse or a little better, but in general there is no "right" choice.
Even at the moment when everything is going well with us, we cannot be sure that this was the consequence of the "right" choice. All we can know is that we like the situation that has developed, or we don't like it.
Abandoning the concept of "right decision" does not mean that you need to abandon the search for a better choice. You just have to admit that absolutely the right solutions don't happen in principle and it will give you a huge relief.
You can make your choices with or without good intentions. You may or may not learn from your choices. You may or may not be lucky. But you never fully know what was right. So live calmer. The main thing would feel happy.
I remembered a case from childhood. I was about 5 years old then. We were going to the theater with our parents. Mom dressed me in a gently pink dress, white shoes and socks. But the rain was over on the street recently. I went outside. Mom told me if I get dirty, we're not going anywhere. And here is a huge puddle in front of me, a blue sky is reflected in it. This mirrored surface is disturbed by a flock of white pigeons. I so wanted to grab one. But my mother's voice sounds in my head..... that's your choice. And I ran in my white shoes on this puddle, naturally I did not grabed anyone. I was all dirty from head to toe. I was so happy. Yes, I then cried that we did not go to the theater. But I made my choice, and I was happy at that moment. The performance can be viewed on another day. But such a gorgeous puddle and white pigeons will no longer be. Right or wrong was my choice. But he was mine. This instance taught me that you have to be held accountable for any of your actions.