It's about me, too. And about my family. And about work... yes, about everything.

And this is my merit. I built every moment of my life by myself. And this is not about the fact that no one helped me and no one is needed. No. This is about the fact that my behavior is my conscious choice.

Perhaps no one will ever hear from me how difficult it is for me now, hard, etc. Because I thought about it and decided that I needed it. We need it now. That's why I'm doing it. Even if it's difficult.

Yes, there are unpleasant circumstances that I do not control. There are many of them. But I have the skills to handle it. So I'm just coping. That's all.

I hate whining. I just don't understand its meaning. Why waste your time on it? This is additional suffering, and idle.
If you whine that you're tired. So can you rest at this time?
If it's so hard, then ask for help or think about efficiency?
If you are sad or bored, maybe do something to fix it?

One of the past Fridays, my friend was thinking about the statement that happiness requires effort. A couple of days later, she wrote to our chat:

“Is it possible to be happy without difficulty? Without expectations, efforts and investments. No. Must not. It won't work. I didn't find such examples in my head. You always need to work hard. They say that it is the expectation of something, and not the lightning-fast receipt that makes a person happy. What falls just like that does not bring happiness or a very short period of rejoicing.”

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Happiness, it's so... labor-intensive.

Therefore, I have 2 states: either I do something to get my happiness, or I enjoy it.

And what kind of condition are you usually in?