Don't try to be smart
You have probably heard advice from the series: “Be smarter, keep quiet and do it your way”, “Just do it, then she will understand that it’s better this way.” These are all tricks and manipulations that harm relationships. If you cannot openly agree and continue to do what is unacceptable for your half, you should either reconsider your position or change your partner.

Do not require telepathic abilities from a partner
Nature gave man a speech apparatus, use it for its intended purpose. Tell your partner what you like and dislike, what you expect, what actions upset you. And certainly you should not blame a person for not knowing what you are offended by.