Good relationships and happy are not the same thing. Without these criteria, it is possible to build normal relationships, but happy and even more so close ones will not work:
1️⃣Emotions
The way you feel when you are around. Spark, flutter, butterflies in the stomach. Attraction and chemistry!
This is the base. Without this, there is no point in going further. To persuade yourself to see something in a “good person” will no longer work. But chemistry without the rest is not a reason to run to the registry office.
2️⃣Friend or foe
This is a zone of coincidence in terms of intellectual, educational levels, habits and interests. It’s okay for him to drink beer after work and stick to a TV series, but you have yoga with fitness and mayonnaise last twenty years ago at your granny’s. If you plan to live together for more than three years, then you should seriously consider how much you match in the simplest moments. How he hears and respects your priorities, and you him. How compatible are they? There are, of course, a lot of nuances here.
3️⃣Quality
Here you can already about your wishes. Someone needs a smart, hard-working, and someone is looking for the good and not to offend.
4️⃣Values
They should not only coincide, but also be in the same priority. They talked about one thing, but got different things - this is just about a mismatch of values. Faithful, as she wanted, the truth is "the driver of the sofa." Responsible, but only before the beloved dog.
To understand whether you match or not, you first need to understand your own values very well. And then ask the man questions that will help him figure it out.