Ludus is consumer love
In such a relationship between partners, there is no real closeness, only the desire to take one's own. For example, intimacy, emotions, sports trophy. By himself, a person has no intention of investing something, sharing experiences and responsibility. She wants to play, enjoy attention, freedom and inflaming passions. Love with such a schedule is superficial, people like the feeling of excitement, anticipation of something new, a tick on another list of victories. But as soon as the result is achieved, they will move on to a new object of fantasy, informs Ukr.Media.
Mania is love as an addiction
At an early stage, he is present in many romantic relationships. The threat begins when the obsession with the partner goes on for more than a joke. Such love has a destructive effect on all participants, because it is built on the desire to possess and control. As a result, feelings are sucked into a vortex, forced to suffer, to suffer, to give up on themselves, to live in constant tension. One feels the pressure and runs away. The other pursues with all passion, losing himself, suffering from jealousy. Such love is destructive and resembles the relationship between a torturer and a masochist.
Eros is passionate love
Similar mechanisms operate here as in mania, but without the negative emphasis — love is mutual, lovers want to possess each other, enjoy the joys of intimacy, idealizing relationships. It is from eros that families are often born: the attraction is so strong that you always want to be near, caress each other, bask in the rays of love. And partners run under the crown to perpetuate these feelings. Unfortunately, over the years, eros expires, tripping over children, everyday life, life crises and emerging imperfections of a partner. True, some manage to carry passion through long years of relationship.

Agape is selfless love
This kind of love can be seen most clearly between a mother and a child, when an adult loves his child with all his heart, puts up with his imperfection, giving him all his tenderness, warmth and care. Unfortunately, in the relationship between a man and a woman, agape can also have negative consequences - the peroxide of "give" and "receive" energies. When a lover is so devoted to his partner that he is ready to make any sacrifices for her happiness: to forgive everything, to accept everything, to be an eternal donor and support, spitting on himself. It's bad because it drains the relationship, that one. who gives, quickly exhales, constantly bends, loses boundaries. But in love, the two-way exchange of energies and the preservation of the individuality of each partner are important.
Storge is a love based on a sense of debt
There is no romance or animal passion in such a relationship. It's just that two people have been together for so long, experienced so much, that they became a part of each other, "joined by roots." Together, they make up an established mechanism, where everyone has their own role and a large share of responsibility. They will tear everyone for their family, because they are an extension of each other. And let their life not boil with emotions, a sense of duty will not allow them to betray their partner, even if these two did not choose each other, even if they do not correspond to ideals. The promise to be together in grief and joy is more important than any emotion.
Philia is friendly love
And who said that only passion or a sense of duty can unite? Sometimes people are so interested in being together, talking and being silent, studying the world, creating — nothing more is needed. In such a relationship, there is no physical attraction (or there was, but it subsided over the years). But there is harmony of souls, equality of opinions, division of interests. Partners just like to be together, listen to music, watch movies, go hiking, raise children, do household chores, work as a team. They have the same attitude to life. Therefore, in partnership, they receive support for their ideas, views and projects.

Pragma is rational love
This type of love comes when people are looking for a comfortable relationship. But not for financial gain (although not without it), but to meet an ally with whom you can confidently go through life. In such a couple, love is not as valuable as the coincidence of views, role models, worldview in general. So that both look at life in the same direction and do not devalue each other's achievements. She is a housewife, he is a breadwinner. And everyone plays their role. This is an important quality, because without pragma, the couple will have no understanding. For example, why he doesn't want children and she does, why she spends all her time in the kitchen instead of traveling with him on the mountain prairies; why does he spend the last money on development instead of investing in the family? Without a match in views, criticism, quarrels, condemnation begin - and the family quickly becomes unhappy.
As you can see, there are many types of love, everyone chooses something of their own according to their values, age, and experience. But it is best to alternate one with the other, without pushing any one idea to extremes, developing passion, friendship, flirting, and responsibility.