Do you feel that your relationship lacks "spark"? There are many factors that can reduce intimacy and commitment between partners. Suzanne Gelb, Ph.D., tells Psychology Today.

Sometimes the lack of physical closeness and bright feelings are related to problems in the past.
For example, he cheated five years ago, and she still remembers it. Or she was silent for weeks, because she was offended, and the man was used to feeling rejection.
In addition, the lack of intimacy and desire can be the result of radical changes in life, for example, the birth of a child, or simply boredom.

If the partners are ready to experiment, these 4 ways will help to restore "ant-flirty feelings".

🟦Make a list of "I love when you ..."
For one day, you and your partner should make a list of everything that makes you happy and excited, even just a little bit:

"I love how you meet me at the door when I come home from work..."
"I love how you surprise me and hug me out of the blue when I'm washing the dishes..."
"I love how you tell me I look beautiful when I'm already dressed for work in the morning..."

Keep making your lists throughout the day, and then you can read them out loud to each other in the evening.

🟦Say: "I'm glad (-yes) that you're here"
In one day, you and your partner can say something like, "I'm glad you're here" to each other at least three times.
You can say it in words or express it with a touch, a small squeeze of the hand or a gentle kiss on the cheek.

You and your partner should continue to express your appreciation, making it clear that you don't take each other for granted.

🟦Make a list of "It would be great if ..."
During the day, you can both make a separate list of what you want from your partner.
It could be something like the "ultimate dream list":

"It would be great if you called me at 5:00 PM and said, 'Meet me outside!' And then took me on a romantic date..."
"It would be great if you would wake me up with a foot massage and bring me breakfast in bed..."

Extra Credit: Pick one fantasy scenario - and do it too!

🟦Try a "no sex" day
You and your partner can choose a day when intimacy and sex are "taboo". Ideally, it should be a day when you both don't work but spend time together.

Kissing can be great, but don't take it all the way.
This will help create tension and excitement, just like teenagers.
You might think back to what you did with your partner when you first started dating.

You'll probably want to send each other love messages, creating even more anticipation for your big "reunion."
To do this, you can set a special time (say, 9:00 p.m.) when physical intimacy will be allowed.