1. Realize your self-sufficiency and accept yourself Many parents teach children to love themselves for something, they say that it is important to constantly prove something, to be good. The famous psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky argues that you just need to love yourself. Repeat every day: "I like myself." Looking in the mirror, repeat: “I like everything. Everything I see suits me.” Remember that you are not better or worse than anyone else, you are you. Start the path of self-love by recognizing and accepting your shortcomings and forgiveness for past mistakes. This does not mean that you do not need to strive for development, just stop scolding and condemning yourself.
2. Track down negative beliefs and change them The reason for not loving yourself often lies in persistent negative beliefs. So, a person can think that he is a crooked clumsy, and cite thousands of evidence to support this. However, this property is not innate, but acquired, and, therefore, it can be changed. Psychologist Veronika Alexandrova explains that the human psyche is designed to pay attention to what confirms deep-seated beliefs and at the same time ignore any refuting cases. To love yourself: Observe yourself and identify your own beliefs about yourself. For example, when you forget something, you think that you are stupid and unreliable. Every time you catch yourself on such a thought, look for another explanation for the situation. Do not take all the blame and responsibility only on yourself. Pay attention to your successes and praise yourself for them. This will help you develop a positive attitude towards yourself.
3. Do not compare yourself to others If you constantly compare yourself to others, then there is a feeling of inferiority. A person gets into an endless wheel of suffering and chasing someone and his success. Each of us can only be ourselves and live our lives. The only person you should compare yourself to is yourself. At the same time, it is important to compare not only the results achieved, but also the new knowledge and understanding gained. Every day ask yourself the following questions: What have I become wiser than yesterday, what have I learned new? What lessons have I learned today? Such a comparison motivates, helps to understand what you need to work on and where to strive.