These words are familiar to anyone who, at least once in their lives, has told their loved ones something they are not used to hearing. Who has at least once tried to express their feelings or clarify the details of their childhood stories. Who, at least once, after a particularly difficult session with a psychologist, came to his mother and told her everything that was nagging.

And what about our loved ones? They don't accept the "new us," partly because they are so scared. They really don't know how to communicate with us now, what topics we are willing to support; what they can say in our presence now; how to bear our feelings... And why we used to go to plant potatoes, and now we have some personal things to do....

Thus, the "new us" is becoming in need of new ways of communicating.

What you can pay attention to:
🌱 MOST IMPORTANT!!! Go about communicating with loved ones from a resourceful, calm state (good sleep, food, well-being, pleasant emotions).
🌱 Respect their boundaries by accepting the fact that it's not easy for them, just like us, to change their communication style.
🌱 Speaking from "me-messages" (I feel, I want, I don't want). And be prepared for the fact that they may not understand what we mean at all! That is, they may not know what is meant by "when you say...., I feel like a 5 year old girl who feels.... ".
🌱 Asking them how they feel, what they would like.
🌱To give them psychology books that we ourselves have been very impressed with, and discuss them afterwards.
🌱Take care of ourselves and get out of contact when the resource starts to run out, not when it's already "empty tank" and all that's left is yelling.

Of course, the topic of relationship building is not easy at all. I've yet to see a parent say, "How cool that you're paying attention to your childhood traumas now! Let's work them out together! Yay!" 🙂 🙂

But despite the sadness of having the people closest to us so hard to accept our changes, it seems very important to make those changes in order to go YOUR way, the way of YOUR heart.

What's it like for you? 🌞