The first stage is the stage of falling in love.
“At first everything is fine, even you. You are only amazed that you can be so in love. Every day brings a new batch of miracles... Hurry up to get married - why wait if you are so happy? I don’t want to think, it makes me sad; Let life decide for you."

The second stage is a slight cooling, the appearance of a friendly “tenderness”.
“Things change in the second year. You have become softer. Be proud of how well you and your half got used to each other. You understand your wife "at a glance"; it's great to be one. The wife is taken on the street for your sister - it flatters you, but it also affects the psyche. You make love less and less and think: it's okay. You arrogantly believe that this very love is growing stronger every day, when the end of the world is not far off.

And the third stage is alienation, cooling, boredom.
“In the third year, you no longer try not to look at fresh girls, from which it is brighter on the street. You no longer talk to your wife ... You and her are increasingly out of the house: this is an excuse not to fuck. And soon there comes a moment when you can no longer endure your half for a single extra second, because you fell in love with the other.


All of the above, of course, is just an idea about the life of a guy with a skin vector, the main factor in a relationship for which is novelty. He would be glad to “love his wife more”, but when everything around is the same, the same, he wants something new, fresh, different!
However, Mark Marronier, believing in his theory of "three years of love", is afraid: he does not want the relationship to cool down, each time he fearfully waits for the approaching third anniversary, until he finally finds the girl with whom he is connected by something more, than a bed or mutual sympathy. “That same date” is approaching, and he still loves his chosen one. Why?
The theory that love lives for three years is not an invention of a particular hero of the novel. It was put forward by biologists, having properly studied the physiological reactions of a person during a relationship.

Most people agree with this hypothesis, because they themselves experienced it in life: after three years (sometimes earlier), their relationship, so wonderful at the beginning, ended in failure.
Love lives for three years. What is this curse? Bad sign? Superstition? There is no mysticism. Everything is explained.
Three years - exactly how much was given by our mother nature for people to be attracted to each other, give birth to a child and feed him. It is believed that just this much time is enough for the baby and mother to survive. Further, the child becomes less vulnerable, the mother can get food herself, and the man, the male, in fact, becomes unnecessary. He can move on, find another woman, have another child... and so on.
What does it take for a woman and a man to be attracted to each other? Attraction pheromones. Most people find their partner by that very elusive smell. This is the main component of physical intimacy: pheromones that excite certain chemical processes in the human brain. Each of the stages of love is accompanied by a change in the hormonal background in the human body.
Over time, the body of partners gets used to each other's pheromones. This usually happens after about 3 years. In some pairs, this period is longer, in some it is shorter. When addiction occurs, it’s like we wake up from a dream and ask: “What was that all about?” Our partner appears before us in new colors, we, who had previously looked at him through the veil of love, begin to see his shortcomings. Very often, caress and tenderness are replaced by irritation and anger. Relationships slowly (and sometimes very rapidly) roll into oblivion.
"And it's all? - you will say, - All love, all high feelings come down only to pheromones and chemical reactions of the brain? If this were true, then there would be no evidence to the contrary in the world. Despite the fact that many couples fail, break up, divorce, there are also many examples when a man and a woman love each other for 3, and 5, and 10, and 20 years. And their tenderness and love towards each other knows no bounds. Do you think it's a fairy tale? Not at all.
Love lives for three years. This myth becomes a reality if nothing brings you together with your chosen one, except for sexual attraction. The relationship of two is work, and they need to be built from the very first meeting. Do not turn a blind eye to omissions and shortcomings, do not wave your hand and say: "Ah, let it be what will be." It will be... the first three years, and then when it's time to wake up, don't ask what you did wrong.

An ideal relationship is the work of both partners, when everyone thinks not about himself, but about his “half”. This does not mean that you need to dissolve in each other, falling into love addiction. To love is not to accept a person with all his advantages and disadvantages, but to understand him. Do not blindly look at him, but be aware of the motives of his behavior and actions. After all, only when we begin to treat each other more tolerantly does the desire to change a partner for ourselves go away.

Relationships are built on a sound understanding of who is in front of you and what should or should not be expected from him. If you see that your future chosen one is a potential domestic tyrant, then three years later there is no need to cry to your girlfriend in a vest and say: “But he was so gentle in the first year of our acquaintance!” Wake up: the signs of a domestic tyrant can be recognized even at the first meeting, if you know System-Vector Psychology.

We often think: “Since everything is fine now, then everything will be fine later.” But when that “later” comes, we cry with disappointment: everything “wonderful” has passed, dried up, and we simply have nothing to talk about with our chosen one, because all the time allotted for us we did not get to know each other better, did not build relationships at a higher level, but simply indulged in mutual intoxication. And, as you know, the morning after drinking comes a headache. And it will come if you treat relationships only as a source of pleasure.

Love lives for three years. Is it a little or a lot? But each of us has the power to extend or shorten this period. Now, in the skin era of consumption, when sex has lost its intimacy and intimacy is becoming more and more consumer in nature, it is becoming increasingly difficult to build long-term relationships. And why do we need a long relationship, if you can change partners until old age? Who needs a traditional marriage if you can live to the fullest without it?
As a result, people with an anal vector, monogamous and adherents of traditions, suffer. They cannot keep up with flickering leather workers, it is difficult for them to adapt to new living conditions.

In an era when sex has ceased to be something significant and intimate, it is time for a new level of relationship - spiritual.

That is why, if you want love to live not for three years, but for much longer, you need to try to build, first of all, a solid foundation of spiritual intimacy, which will guarantee that your tenderness and affection will not run out after the expiration of pheromones. You will become each other's support and support, a saving shore from life's turmoil for many, many years.