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The beginning of a life together
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1. Teamwork
It is quite possible that when you first started a relationship with a person, or even lived together, you probably did not have to perform such complex team work as in the first year of family life. Basically, it all starts with the routine of housework: cooking, cleaning, housekeeping, and so on. When you dated, you didn't have to worry too much about where your partner spent his money, how often he cleaned his room, how long he took a shower, and much more.
Now, most of the time you are together, and you have to share tasks around the house, tell each other your schedule, discuss the budget, share your expenses, and if you already have children, then raising and caring for the child is connected here. After all, it is also about trust and mutual understanding. In the first year of marriage, you need to build a relationship where you can trust each other 100%. For many people, this can be a problem. Because they did not expect such a large number of tasks and possible problems that often arise in family life. So this period for many couples is not easy.

2. Quarrels and conflicts
Naturally, any problems that you had before marriage, and the shortcomings of a partner that you discovered earlier, will not disappear anywhere, they will remain after the wedding. So the first year of marriage can be really difficult because you may not have fully realized yet how annoying your boyfriend or girlfriend's behavior or habits can be.
Your first year can be full of conflicts and quarrels. After all, quarrels and disagreements become much more when two people begin to live together. But these quarrels will become less and less as you learn to accept the shortcomings and weaknesses of your partner, and also begin to respect each other.
In just half a year, my husband and I learned to understand what upsets each of us, and agreed to avoid such things. Therefore, any person should expect that in the first year of marriage there will be many disagreements. But this is quite normal and natural. You don't need to be afraid of it. Better work through all these points, find compromises, and this will make your relationship stronger.

3. Learning new things
No matter how well you thought you knew your partner before marriage, I guarantee you will discover many new things about him after marriage. Because marriage brings people together. As a result, you will learn much more about each other. For example, I found out that my husband doesn't like to eat alone. He also becomes angry if he comes home from work and dinner is not yet ready at home. Although I work no less than he does.
Marriage is a whole new level in relationships. You will learn many new things about your partner. You will do so much more together. And even if you've known your partner for many years, marriage will open your eyes to a few more of his quirks. In this case, your task is to accept them, and sincerely love your partner for who he is.

4. Additional costs and savings
When my husband and I met, I wanted to travel the world and be a free person. But when we got married, I had to give up those dreams - to a certain extent. I don't blame my husband for this. These are the realities of our time and family life. Instead, we turned our dreams into something positive and learned to find happiness in other moments. We have a child whom we both love and care for very much. We are also slowly starting to save money for our future big trip. Therefore, we have to save on some things.
The first year of marriage will keep you from some of the things you dream about. But it will create many more good moments that you didn't think about. So learn to accept the good and don't focus on the bad.

5. Additional responsibilities
In the first year of marriage, and in the next as well, your life will have more responsibilities and less free time. This includes both household chores and the need to devote enough time to your partner and work on relationships. You should communicate to each other about your feelings and desires. You will need to discuss some things in the relationship that may be left unsaid. Regular communication in a relationship should be one of the important points, you will need to devote a lot of time to communicating with a partner and discussing your future life.

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