According to the authors of such magazines, a strong woman is responsible for herself, often also for children, parents, relatives, friends, she has her own clear point of view and is true to it, does not seek to please someone, keeps her habits, style. A strong woman takes care of her appearance without excesses. In her rules of life, the main role is given not to the form, but to the result, she is characterized by activity: business, physical, mental. She is busy with business, not pastime.

However, despite the abundance of virtues, next to such women, far from many men can withstand.

According to the women themselves, first of all - out of fear. Men are afraid that a strong and successful woman will overwhelm them.

“Societal stereotypes are to blame,” my 35-year-old friend is sure. - It is believed that a woman should give birth and raise children, and making a career and being a leader is a “male destiny”. Therefore, next to a woman who is able to be strong, men feel flawed and disadvantaged. They begin to feel that they are being humiliated, or something.

“Men adore weak women because they look cool against their background. And next to a strong woman, you need to really represent yourself. And this is not for everyone, ”says another.

And in general, not every representative of the stronger sex, according to women, can correspond to such a chosen one.

“It is not easy to conquer a strong woman,” my neighbor is sure, who clearly considers herself one of such women. - You can’t take it with perfume candies, you need something more interesting. She has no problems with money - either a promising job or her own business. Housing is also yours. What vacation he wants to afford can. And she herself - not begging for money from her husband or daddy. Her self-esteem is fine. Can you imagine what level of personality a man should have in order for him to conquer it?

Well, since today not every man can boast of such successes, then, of course, male self-esteem suffers next to such a woman. Therefore, men try to choose ladies who are weaker and more worthless, against the background of which they themselves will look advantageous.

If such a man nevertheless, for some reason, connects his life with a woman who turns out to be more successful, then he can really try to suppress her with the help of all kinds of manipulations - endless criticism, feelings of guilt. A man tries to increase his self-esteem by humiliating his wife. And, trying to destroy his wife as a person, he seeks to gain power over her.

Some in such situations really try to assert themselves with the help of endless leftist sprees.

However, such behavior is still characteristic of notorious and truly weak men.

Self-sufficient men are attracted to a strong and intelligent woman, without causing a desire to suppress.
Equal play
Another thing is that in the minds of many, the concepts of “strong” and “powerful” (as well as “weak” and “submissive”) have firmly merged into one.

“Most women under the concept of “strong woman” mean one that constantly competes with a man. And in everything - in relationships, in love. She is constantly trying to beat, furnish, convict, outwit, manipulate a man. So we're talking about powerful women."

They can really be strong, successful and even smart. But at the same time they have absolutely no wisdom. Hence the tendency to teach a man, criticize, constantly compete with him.

That's why men shun them. A man simply does not like the style of behavior that a woman chooses.

A man unconsciously perceives a woman who wants to compete with him or, moreover, teaches him (as anyone), not as a woman. A man sees the woman who competes with him as another male rival.

In the woman who teaches him, he often sees his mother.
That is why such women are not chosen for family and love relationships. And not at all because a man in such a relationship feels insecure.
“Men do not like such women very much, but they are not at all afraid,” the psychologist assures.
The main reason for this behavior of a woman is distrust of her chosen one and the struggle for power.
This may be the result of distrust of the entire stronger sex, the roots of which come from childhood - dad left the family or was simply worthless and everything in the family was controlled by mom, an unsuccessful experience of first love, etc. A man himself may also not inspire confidence in a woman - he is not smart enough, ambitious, decisive, responsible, etc. But, linking her life with him, the woman firmly believes that she will be able to remake him.

In any case, a woman initially seeks to take the role of a leader in a relationship, she wants to control everything and manage everything. Nothing good comes from this.

Having seized all the power in her hands, the woman is disappointed. Still, power, among other things, implies responsibility for the adoption and consequences of decisions made. This does not suit the woman at all, and she begins to demand responsibility from the man. And by this time he had already managed to wean himself from this responsibility.

As a result, next to such women are usually complete infantiles, who from childhood are accustomed to the leadership of an imperious mother. Full-fledged men, as a rule, cannot withstand such pressure. Those that are weaker go into the so-called "internal emigration" - they begin to drink, play, go to the left. Those that are stronger simply leave the family.

“The woman then begins to lament that strong men have grown up and there are only weaklings nearby, but in fact she just dealt with a really strong man,” the psychologist believes.

This does not mean that a strong man can only live with a companion who looks into his mouth, does not have her own opinion, is ready to obey him in everything and completely dissolves in his life.

Such a woman, in fact, chooses a man as not just a support, but a life crutch, becoming dependent, unstable and dependent on a man. This is especially dangerous for the woman herself. And very tiring for a man.

Therefore, the stronger sex has nothing against it if there is a self-sufficient and strong woman next to him, able to help and support in difficult times. The most important thing is that she should not have the desire to fight for power.

“A woman should entrust a man with the right to make decisions and responsibility for them. You need to learn to trust your man, says the psychologist. “When a woman can keep silent or support a man in time, when she gives him the opportunity to find a solution on his own and even, perhaps, make a mistake, but at the same time continues to love and respect him, believe me, this is so captivating that it cannot be put into words.”

In this, according to the expert, the real strength of a woman is manifested. Truly strong women, the specialist is sure, are wise women.

And let such a woman be able to achieve great success in her career or know for sure what is best to do. But she will never refuse this opportunity to a man and will never try to lead him.

Don't be afraid to be a strong woman. You need to learn to see the strength of a man. And then you will never have to cry alone at the window.