The question of whether to talk about the problem or not is decided individually: it depends on what, in fact, worries you.
So, in intimate troubles or assumptions about the infidelity of a spouse, you should not devote either girlfriends or colleagues. You should not discuss women's problems with your husband, and it is better not to disturb your parents with family squabbles.
There are forbidden topics that it is advisable not to communicate with anyone at all. This includes your personal life: do not gossip about your husband, about marital troubles - domestic and sexual, your claims and dissatisfaction ...
By focusing on these problems and brushing them over and over in conversations, you only attract more failures. Even if everything is not going smoothly in the family boat, to the question “How are you doing?” answer "Everything is fine: we live, we love, we care."
It is believed that a person who often complains, along with negativity, loses his vital energy. If you feel the need to vent your indignation into the ears of others on a daily basis, know that this is overkill. You should change your outlook on the world, return a positive attitude and reconsider the guidelines.

What are the "cons" of frankness?

1. An overly sincere story about a turbulent past and intimate affairs can give rise to a series of rumors. The secret becomes clear by the will of frivolous, talkative, stupid, envious or selfish girlfriends and colleagues. Entrust secrets only to those friends in whom you are sure.
2. Endless stories about problems can tire your new or old friend, push him away from your company. Remember how often you complain, and think about whether you yourself would like to rake someone else's "rubbish from the hut" for so long?
Eternally depressive, boring, dissatisfied with everything in a row, a comrade is not interesting to anyone!
3. Your troubles can upset close relatives, especially your mother.
Having spoken out about health problems, your husband or children, troubles at work, doubts and hardships, you will feel better: after confession, catharsis always comes.
But your interlocutor will worry about you for a long time, be nervous, and then you will have to run to the pharmacy for sedatives for your mother.
4. Some information will be clearly superfluous. So, do not complain about your ex to your current lover, but tell your boss about failures at work and problems with colleagues.
However, one should not accumulate thoughts about sore for years in oneself: either an explosion or depression will happen. For anyone, both a man and a woman, for peace of mind it is important to sometimes meet with same-sex comrades and discuss problems in a narrow circle.
But present information in a dosed, competent way, without tantrums and tears, without saddening loved ones and without pulling the blanket over yourself. Listen to advice and words of support, absorb positive energy and tune in to positive.