This is both advice to those Ladies still searching for their match and a word of warning to those wanting to communicate with me.

Everyone wants to find a partner, someone who they can love and who will love them. However, I think we would all prefer it to be a genuine love. With that in mine, Ladies do yourself a favor and PLEASE DO NOT SAY THAT YOU LOVE SOMEONE IN YOUR FIRST COMMUNICATION WITH THEM. I can tell you that nothing sounds more insincere, more false to me than someone telling me that they love me based upon just my photo or my profile. I here this often (way too many times) in chat requests and letters from woman I have never talked to (and probably won't talk to).

I have found that the letters I responded to were honest ones. They simply say they read my profile and liked it and that they were interested in knowing me better. No statements of love at first sight (read), no statements about a deep desire or devotion to me and no statements about how I am their whole life now. I can't speak for all, but for me, this is too much too soon. Speaking of too fast, don't tell them of your plans to leave home and join them until AFTER you have talked to them and make that plan (at least until they respond to your letter in the first place).

Just as you would see a man many times on a date before you made plans for the future, treat these letters similarly. You need to talk to them a few times to get to know them and more importantly, so they can get to know you. I hear tales of how Eastern Men are not right or not serious, you need to make sure that the one you talk to is. You need to make sure thay are all they say they are and that they are right for you BEFORE any great plan or pronouncement.

I know that I ignore and delete many messages which seem premature or make unrealistic statesments early. Understand my advice and maybe save yourself some trouble, time and worry.