Sexologist and author of A Decent Proposal, Louise Van De Velde, argues that age is nothing more than a number: "Getting older, we, by and large, feel like the same people - of course, when we do not look in the mirror," notes she, without disregarding a number of objectively existing subtleties that will inevitably have to be taken into account when entering into a relationship with a man who is much older or younger than you.

IF HE IS OLDER THAN YOU
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GENERATION CONFLICT
Even the most incredible sexual attraction and warmth does not negate the difference between generations, which, by the way, is especially acute in our country, where only a dozen years can separate entire eras. On the one hand, this is a guarantee that you will be interested in each other, on the other hand, you will inevitably feel differences in the so-called cultural background: you and your older lover grew up on different films and songs, you most likely have completely different tastes, and even the same historical events you will interpret differently.

HE IS BY DEFINITION THE MAIN
For some, this item will, on the contrary, be a big plus: to lay responsibility for all decisions on a loved one and relax is a tempting prospect. However, there is a risk that if at first it will be easy and interesting for you to be in a relationship with a wise adult companion, then gradually you will begin to experience increasing irritation, and your lover will become in your eyes a tyrant and a boring know-it-all to whom you are forced to obey.

HE HAS LUGGAGE FROM THE PAST
The image of a mature man's beloved, who is disliked by his children simply because she is the same age as them, is a cliché of romantic melodramas. What to do: along with life experience, professional success and solid status, an older man often manages to acquire baggage of a different kind, namely, ex-wives and children. However, with enough wisdom and flexibility, you can easily turn this complexity into an advantage: a man's interaction with his children can tell you a lot about him - especially if you are looking for not just an easy romantic hobby, but a companion for creating a family.

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HE KNOWS WHAT YOU WANT
A midlife crisis, career throwing and the search for one's vocation - a man overcomes all these stages by a certain age, gaining wisdom, self-confidence and a clear understanding of what he needs for happiness - and if it turns out that he needs you, be sure that the new lover will be able to become for you that notorious stone wall. After all, it is the ability to make decisions and take responsibility - the very qualities that we so desperately look for in men.

HE'S MORE EXPERIENCED
In solving financial and domestic issues, in sex, in home improvement and organizing vacations, a mature man is more experienced in absolutely everything and has already managed to make all the mistakes that your peers are about to make, and draw the necessary conclusions from them. This means that he can become not only your lover, but also a wise adviser, a sensitive friend and an extremely attentive lover.

HE LIKE TO TAKE CARE OF YOU
Statistics say that it is older men who are prone to beautiful romantic gestures that we love so much and that our peers will seem like unnecessary stupidity. From a lover who is much older than you, you are unlikely to hear a nonchalant “let's go hang out in a club”; but he will gladly teach you to dance the waltz, he will not be too lazy to give you a bouquet of flowers for no reason or bring breakfast to bed - it is with age that men begin to understand the value of such pleasant trifles.