MYTH 1: A STRONG WOMAN = "MAN IN A SKIRT"
Against the backdrop of such progressive changes, an interesting trend is observed: modern women are afraid to be strong. The number of trainings and books on how to “return to femininity” and learn to be weak again so as not to scare men away and not be left alone is growing exponentially today, and the definition of “strong woman” sounds less like a compliment than like a diagnosis, predicting a difficult fate, impenetrable loneliness and failure in his personal life. Let's try to figure out which women should really be considered strong, what "excessive" education and success is fraught with for a woman, and is it true that men are afraid of strong women.

REALLY: "The Iron Lady" who "stops a galloping horse", a cold bitch who looks down on men because she is used to and knows how to achieve everything herself - such an unattractive image invariably arises when we mention a strong woman. True, a closer look often reveals a paradox: under the armor of a powerful monster, a simply unfortunate woman is found who cries into her pillow at night from loneliness. At the same time, really weak women - sort of "what a lovely fool" - blondes from jokes, frivolous, impulsive, not knowing what they want from life, completely devoid of practicality and over-emotional - in fact, they are not very attractive to men, with the exception of , perhaps, bright fleeting novels. For long-term, deep relationships, men, as studies show, usually choose smart companions (this quality invariably comes first), kind, sane and emotionally mature - that is, strong ones. Conclusion: the strength of a woman is not so much in her weakness (and certainly not in feigned male impenetrability), but in wisdom and the ability to be both strong and feminine-fragile, depending on the circumstances.

MYTH 2: SUCCESSFUL WOMEN ARE LESSLY FALLING IN LOVE
REAL: Your chances of winning a man's heart do not depend on what position you hold and how much you earn. Yes, denying a woman reciprocity, men sometimes refer to her intellectual superiority, higher social status, career achievements - but all this is nothing more than cunning. "You're too smart and successful for me" is a lie in the same category as "it's not about you, it's about me." In fact, everything is much simpler: you either like it or not. You are either attracted or not. Now, of course, we do not take into account extreme cases - those who sincerely believe that a woman's place is in the kitchen; on them, indeed, one kind of successful woman acts like a red rag on a bull. Men with healthy self-esteem, on the contrary, appreciate in women both intelligence, career ambitions, and education, but with one important caveat: all of the above is nothing more than a great bonus, but by no means a key parameter that determines female attractiveness. In other words, no one will fall in love with your diploma with honors, knowledge of three languages ​​and mastery of Excel - and at the same time, if a man is already in love with you, he will be sincerely proud of your achievements and talents and will certainly brag to everyone around he got smart.

MYTH 3: A WOMAN WHO EARNS MORE THAN A MAN IS USUALLY UNHAPPY IN MARRIAGE
REAL: According to psychologists, most modern men are quite calm about the fact that their companions earn much more, and women do not worry too much about this and do not try to impose the status of a breadwinner on their husbands. At the same time, much more than a financial issue, they are concerned about the level of ambition of their lover: a man, in the eyes of a modern woman, does not have to be a Rockefeller at all, but he must certainly set goals and have hobbies and dreams.

MYTH 4: NEXT TO A STRONG WOMAN, A MAN FEELS UNNECESSARY
REAL: On the one hand, modern men are really less likely to feel like breadwinners, earners and protectors - their lovers have learned how to hammer nails and earn money. And yet this statement is rather a myth. As a rule, a man feels unnecessary not because a strong woman is next to him, but because a woman is trying to demonstrate her independence and his worthlessness to him. Every now and then boasting about our career achievements, higher earnings and the ability to wield a hammer and screwdriver, every time we deal a blow to male pride - and a very painful blow. So that a man who is tired of feeling like a loser and henpecked does not run away wherever his eyes look, it is worth giving up perfectionist habits, stop competing with your loved one and often ask him for help - at least in matters of screwdrivers and nails.