If you are faced with conflicts with your husband / wife, then try to find the reasons for their appearance:

Unpreparedness for family life. It appears when a couple entered into marriage hastily or under the influence of circumstances (pregnancy is the most common unforeseen circumstance). The situation leads to the fact that people are simply not ready to put up with each other’s shortcomings or are not at all ready to limit themselves to certain family responsibilities (more often it occurs due to age, in simple terms, “didn’t work up”). If there is no strong love, then any little things in your partner and family life will annoy you. The result is conflict.
The concept of family formed from childhood. If one of the spouses grew up in a family in which there were frequent quarrels and conflicts, then the likelihood of the same problems in his family is high. From childhood, a certain model of behavior is laid down for a person. Having created his family, he continues to act according to this model.
The cause of conflicts in the family: to live like parents
The cause of conflicts in the family: repeating the mistakes of parents

Overestimated / underestimated self-esteem of one of the partners. Inflated self-esteem does not allow one of the spouses to admit his guilt, leads to constant blaming of the partner. And low self-esteem leads either to a partner’s disrespect for you (he begins to allow himself too much), or to constant attempts to assert himself
Desire for power. When one of the partners is trying with all his might to be in charge and manage all family issues. As a rule, the second of the spouses sooner or later gets tired of being a puppet and demands respect for his opinion. But often it is already too late, because the second half will have a strong confidence in its supremacy
Taking the blame. As soon as you start saying "I'm to blame" in any situation, your partner will get bored. So, of course, you will avoid some conflicts, but you will bring on another conflict - a lack of interest and desire.
Cause of the conflict: taking the blame
Cause of the conflict: taking the blame
Lack of interest and desire. Sometimes this is a consequence of the previous cause. And sometimes it appears when one spouse wants something together, but the other does not. As a rule, the wife wants to walk together in the park every evening, and the husband wants to either sit in front of the TV or go to friends

Revenge. As soon as you begin to take revenge on your partner, you begin to destroy your peaceful life. Revenge will never solve the previous conflict, but it will create a new one.
I am always right/right. A spouse can take such a position, but it will end, rather, with resentment of the second half. There is no person in the world who is always right
Conflict in the family due to character
Conflict in the family due to character
Short temper. When resentment arises, a woman or a man can show anger and aggression. Don't allow it. If you feel like shouting out your point of view, do the following. Within 30 seconds, the partner calmly and without humiliation speaks his point of view. At the same time, the one who listens should not interrupt and behave only openly and good-naturedly. For the next 30 seconds, the listener retells the essence of the complaint in the same calm tone. Then you change places. Such an exercise will allow you not to offend each other with angry words and listen to the opinion of everyone.

Selfishness. The selfishness of one of the partners sooner or later leads to resentment on the part of the second. Every person wants to be respected and appreciated. Living with an egoist is hard. And the saddest thing is that it is even more difficult to re-educate an egoist
Unwillingness to help with housework. Many men may say that housekeeping is a woman's business. For the most part, yes, but, firstly, men also have their own responsibilities, and secondly, sometimes you can replace your wife in her household chores and give her a break. Otherwise, instead of a once passionate wife, you will meet a dull housewife at home.