A major female mistake: they think that if a man falls in love, it will ensure a long-lasting relationship. But falling in love is hormonal. This feeling goes away in a period of 1 to 12 months. If your goal is love, a deep long-term feeling, you need to be able to develop it.

What qualities do you need to have in order for a man to love: firmly, truly, honestly and forever? Those who say that this is impossible are only projecting their own unfortunate experiences onto humanity as a whole. There are only two of these qualities.

1. Understanding.

We love those who understand us and are disappointed in those who don't. Understanding is a state of involvement, emotional closeness, and interest in your partner. To be loved, sincerely and forever, you have to do the exact opposite of what most women do: not show off, getting out of your skin, trying to get attention and prove how great and gorgeous you are (that is, not to be focused on yourself), but to be genuinely interested in your partner. Don't you feel a growing sympathy for anyone who wants to get to know you better, genuinely interested in your emotions, thoughts? Of course you do. At some point the sympathy grows into a deeper feeling - love.

What is needed to understand a man?

First of all, to understand his psychology. The vast majority of people have no idea what is going on in the soul of another person because they are not really interested. Everyone wants to be understood, but they do not try to understand the other person. And since the psychological makeup of men and women is just as different as that of cats and dogs, we live like cats and dogs: barking, biting, and suffering from misunderstanding.

2. tenderness.

It is the ability to maintain inner calm, which outwardly manifests itself as gentleness, femininity, tenderness, but with the preservation of personal boundaries and personal core.

"The husband is the head and the wife the neck. Where she turns, there her feet go." The woman rules the man, the family, and the whole world through her unique quality - affectionality. "A gentle word and a bone breaks a bone" - a woman's softness subdues a man's toughness, and the toughest warriors become gentle tiger cubs next to a gentle woman.

Unfortunately, due to the loss of folk traditions, the degradation of the system of education of boys and girls, many modern women are losing this quality, forced without male support to become tough, masculine.

Gentleness is not a compliant blind submission. No. Tenderness can be compared to water: being fluid and soft, it skirts any obstacle, but reaches its goal. Try to squeeze the water, and it will flow through your fingers. Hit it and you get a bruise, like a blow on the ground - affection, being gentle and malleable outwardly, has a hard inner core.

If you say that every man has his own taste, you would be half right. As there is an ideal of a prince, which is shared by most women, so we can derive a general formula for male preferences. What qualities are valued representatives of the stronger sex, said practicing family psychologist Alexander Shakhov.

Falling in love and love for men - different things. There are women who attract attention, for which men care, want them, fall in love with them. And there are women who LOVE, who are cared for, to whom they remain faithful.

A major female mistake: they think that if a man falls in love, it will ensure a long-lasting relationship. But falling in love is hormonal. This feeling goes away in a period of 1 to 12 months. If your goal is love, a deep long-term feeling, you need to be able to develop it.


One more piece of news: before a man can fall in love, he has to fall in love first. So put aside your skepticism about sexy looks, thinking that you "don't need it because you love for the soul." You're half right: they love for the soul. But they fall in love with their looks. You can already be the perfect woman for love, but while you remain invisible to men's sexual attention, alas and ah - you'll lose to sexy ladies who are skilled at falling in love, but far from giving real love. That's how the male psychology works, that's how the world is.

What qualities do you need to have in order for a man to love you: firmly, truly, honestly, and forever? Those who say this is impossible are only projecting their own unfortunate experiences onto all of humanity. There are only two of these qualities.

1. Understanding.

We love those who understand us and are disappointed in those who don't. Understanding is a state of involvement, emotional closeness, and interest in your partner. To be loved, sincerely and forever, you have to do the exact opposite of what most women do: not show off, getting out of your skin, trying to get attention and prove how great and gorgeous you are (that is, not to be focused on yourself), but to be genuinely interested in your partner. Don't you feel a growing sympathy for anyone who wants to get to know you better, genuinely interested in your emotions, thoughts? Of course you do. At some point the sympathy develops into a deeper feeling - love.

What is needed to understand a man?

First of all, to understand his psychology. The vast majority of people have no idea what is going on in the soul of another person because they are not really interested. Everyone wants to be understood, but they do not try to understand the other person. And since the psychological makeup of men and women is just as different as that of cats and dogs, we live like cats and dogs: barking, biting, and suffering from misunderstanding.

2. tenderness.

It is the ability to maintain inner calm, which outwardly manifests itself as gentleness, femininity, tenderness, but with the preservation of personal boundaries and personal core.

"The husband is the head and the wife the neck. Where she turns, there her feet go." The woman rules the man, the family, and the whole world through her unique quality - affectionality. "A gentle word and a bone breaks a bone" - a woman's softness subdues a man's toughness, and the toughest warriors become gentle tiger cubs next to a gentle woman.

Unfortunately, due to the loss of folk traditions, the degradation of the system of education of boys and girls, many modern women are losing this quality, forced without male support to become tough, masculine.

Gentleness is not a compliant blind submission. No. Tenderness can be compared to water: being fluid and soft, it skirts any obstacle, but reaches its goal. Try to squeeze the water, and it will flow through your fingers. Strike it and you get a bruise, like hitting the ground - affection, while gentle and supple outwardly, has a hard inner core.

What is this tenderness based on, this inner calm and ability to easily withstand any stresses of family life and get rid of negative emotions like rain washes away dirt from city streets? High self-esteem, deep self-confidence, the ability to manage their emotions, gently and skillfully get out of any conflicts, manage others through tenderness and love. Truly, this most important feminine quality should be developed from early childhood.