Is there an upside to being offended?
First of all, it must be said that a person who is offended, as it were, increases his own significance. But, of course, this is a deceptive feeling, but it is very pleasant, especially for people with low self-esteem.
The train of thought of the offended person is often something like this: “Here I am all so important and significant in this life, but they took me and undeservedly offended, offended my dignity. And I know for sure that he is wrong, a traitor, insolent and a parasite! And if the offender apologizes to such a person, the situation only gets worse, because the one who was offended talks about the fact that since they apologized to him, it means that they admitted their guilt and he eventually turned out to be right.
The second common "positive" quality of resentment is that the offended person can manipulate his offender or arrange the situation in such a way as to gain benefits and satisfy some of his needs.