Hello Ladies and Gentlemen.
I am doing this as my first ever blog anywhere. I could be doing it wrong but I have some very important things to say to all. I am writing in response to so many letters from women who are saying that they don't deserve a chance with me and asking me to promise I would never hit them or that I would never hit a child. The answer is absolutely no to both questions. I have never hit my woman and I would never hit a child. I have not had any children of my own, though I want them so much. I don't claim to be a wise man but I know this. First of all a Man's Home is His Castle. Being the King of his castle it is his first responsibility to protect, love and respect all members (WIFE AND CHILDREN)in his castle. It is their safe haven from the dangers of the world. It is his responsibility to lay down and give his life in their protection if needed. This is how it is supposed to be and how it should be. As we all know this is not always the case. I will give an example. A man and woman are married with hopes and dreams of raising a family, having happy children. In American society a man is taught from boyhood to hide his true feelings. Never show emotion, never cry or never admit to his fears. He is to be strong and take everything the world has dealt to him and never falter. This is wrong. A true man is strong enough to show his feelings. Example of what is wrong. A man comes home from work upset over something that happened. He doesn't tell his wife what is wrong. Being a woman she knows something is wrong and out of her love for him she wants to help him get through the problem. She asks him what is wrong. He gets more upset and won't tell her. She persists and in his anger he hits her. She doesn't deserve this ever. A young boy's father is his hero. He sees his father hit his mother. What happens. The innocent boy grows to be a nan who hits his woman. He thinks it is right and he is entitled to hit his woman because his father taught him. This wrong and is no fault of the woman. It is wrong for society to accept. It is a weak man's sickness being passed on. A beautiful innocent little girl Idolizes her father. She is Daddy's Girl. She sees her father hit her mother. She grows to be a woman expecting to be hit by her man and thinking she deserves to be hit and by hitting her is showing her love. This is all so wrong. It is never the fault of the woman or the child. It goes back to the King of the castle being weak, not able to show his feelings and taking it out on his wife and children. Now You have a Beautiful Woman who has given her all. She has given her love, her heart, her soul,her mind and her body to this man and bore his children. She has given so much to her man and her family she has lost herself and who she is. Her dreams of a happy family, happy children are no longer. Her dreams are now replaced by a nightmare in the day and night. There is no safe haven. The danger is from within the castle. She has now become the protector of her children She is torn because she loves a man who hits her. She is afraid to tell anyone or talk about it and holds her feelings inside because she is ashamed and thinks she has done something wrong and she deserves to be hit. It is not her fault. Women, please hold Your Head high. You have done nothing wrong. If You are in this situation get out ASAP to Your family or any safe place. Some women will takes this for years and still continue to sleep with and love and give herself to her man because she was taught she should take it as being normal. Who is really the strong one?I know that some of You women are a better man than me. I could not do this. If You are a woman who has been hit by her man and he says he is sorry and wants You to come back to him, do not trust him. He will hit You again. If You are a man who is reading this and You have hit Your woman, stand up and be a man. Admit Your being wrong. Take responsibility for Your actions and get help. Don't lose Your family and your greatest gifts from God, (Your Wife and children) because of stupid pride or because it is what Your father did. Get counseling, do anything and everything to get Yourself on the right path and stop the cycle, stop the sickness and stop the hurt. I cannot speak for Ukranian men,women or for Ukranian society because I don't know anything about it but I have seen a change in American society in they are trying to correct it. Women, please be proud of Yourself for being a woman. Never accept that a man is greater or better than You. Men and women are equally strong. A man's strength comes from his woman. Accept that Your woman is sometimes smarter than You. Don't feel like less of a man because she is. God made her that way for his own reasons. Embrace her for being this way. She should be beside You, not in front or behind You, except for in her protection, put her behind You. You are an unbeatable team when working together. This is how God intended it to be. Be happy if You are a man and God has sent You his Greatest and most Beautiful Creature, a woman. Realize and believe that if God has sent You a Woman and she has blessed You with Children that no matter if You are an Executive, CEO or if You are a Garbage man You have achieved Your greatest accomplishment and success in life by raising happy children to go on and do greater things than You and Your wife achieved in Your own lives. I don't write often unless I have something to say. Find Your own happiness inside of You. That is where it is and where it starts. Happy Thanksgiving. Gary.