The relationship is over, and the brain still doesn't recognize it A relationship has ended and you still want to hear your ex's voice, read old messages, look at happy photos together - it's like a drug addiction. When our heart is broken, the brain reacts in the same way as an addict who is withdrawn from heroin, explains Dr. Winch.
Solution: First, we need to understand why the relationship ended. Winch suggests listening to an ex-partner explain why things didn't work out for you, or analyzing it yourself. If the relationship ended because "it's not about you, it's about me", do not ask your ex-partner to explain the reason. Create it yourself, advises the doctor. This is necessary for our self-esteem. For example: "He had commitment problems." Understanding the reason for the breakup allows you to eradicate all hopes for the return of the relationship and to live on.