Changing Your Mindset

Stop making excuses. Finding love, or the idea of dating even, can be scary and overwhelming. You may find excuses such as work, kids, and other activities in your life. You may also think that you're "too old" to find love, or that there is "no one good to date at my age." Having the right mindset, and being open to new things is the first step in the right direction.
Prioritize love in your life. There are lots of things that can consume your day, but if you really are in search of love, then love needs to be a priority. If you are genuinely looking for love, don't overlook an opportunity that's available. Maybe someone asks you for coffee, or wants to see if you will join them for an event. Be open to going on a date, or rescheduling it for a time that works best for you both

Put effort into your appearance. Take time to think about what you like about yourself in terms of your appearance and your personality. First impressions do matter.

Act confident. Confidence is often more important than appearance alone. Instead of focusing on the negative aspects of yourself, find the positives

Be aware of what you want, and don't want, in a partner. We all have "deal-breakers" in a relationship. By now if you're in your 40s, 50s, or 60s, you have a better handle of what you're willing to compromise about, and what you're not. Be honest with yourself, and don't let your judgment become clouded about other things that are going on.