In a relationship with a man, many do not have an understanding of how to interact, strengthening and increasing love, and how to be happy yourself. Throughout our youth, we are taught mathematics, the Russian language, chemistry and physics, but there are no schools of happy relationships. And since there are no happy families around, from whom can one learn to be happy and create happiness in the family?
Therefore, women include their experience, taken from the parental family, the advice of parents and girlfriends (who are far from good), as well as their own intuition and begin “amateur activities”. Which rarely leads to a good, fast and high-quality result - a happy family life.
Even with finances, housing squares and other vital resources.
And all why? Because women do not know how to properly communicate and create an atmosphere of joy. And this is evidenced by my 20 years of experience in building my own happy family.
But everything is really solvable. I have already received evidence of this many times from my own life and changes in women who have completed my author's program "I am happy, how to create a loving relationship between husband and wife." As a result, women begin to feel loved, support from their husbands, declarations of love, help around the house. The life of a woman becomes easier and calmer.
10 Relationship Mistakes and 10 Tips on How to Fix Them to Ensure Harmony and Ease in Relationships
Error 1
Seriousness of women. Do not be surprised when a woman is serious, she does not know how to play and a man is bored with her. She has everything on the shelves, everything is as it should be.
Rule 1
Play love games with a man, learn to intrigue and your man will understand that you are the one and only. And will try to keep you.
Mistake 2
When a woman believes that she is very successful and has achieved everything in her life herself, as well as built a career. Such women tend to believe that they are smart and beautiful, and the man next to them is “so-so”. I can do everything myself, why do I need a man? And it is not clear, and why is her husband does not appreciate her?
Rule 2
If you want to be happy, then you will have to refuse to be a leader in the family, and it is advisable to give up the reins of government that you took away from your man over time. If it is so important to you, then become at least on the same level, taking the same responsibility for your family.
Start wanting and working on what needs to change. By themselves, the problems will not resolve, they will simply turn into a protracted, chronic form. They will begin to annoy, and loom. And over time, they will flow to thoughts of divorce. And then everything can happen at all, the worst case scenario with the division of children.
Mistake 3
Compare your relationships with worse ones and do not seek to improve them.
Very often a woman at my consultations says that she is satisfied with her relationship with her husband and that everything is supposedly fine with her. That their relationship is good! But she does not even imagine how much she can be loved, desired and feel the support of her husband, receive gifts and attention. There is never too much happiness, women mistakenly believe. If everything is fine with you, then why is there an emptiness inside? And depression?
As a result, women are inactive, do not invest in themselves, and time goes by and life passes by. They lose their husband's interest and the husband's desire to act for the good of the family, help with the housework, stop believing in him. And all this is slowly moving towards thoughts of divorce. At the same time, do not attach much importance to this, since at other levels in income, with children, everything is more and less “normal”.
Rule 3
To act on the strategies and steps that make it possible to create a happy and loving relationship, these can be quite simple steps. You know the proverb: If you sow an act, you will reap a habit; if you sow a habit, you will reap a character; if you sow a character, you will reap a destiny. Even one very small but good habit to implement into life, it changes life for the better! And if there are 10 such habits?
Error 4
A woman remains closed throughout her life, waiting for a dirty trick, as she had problems and betrayals in previous relationships. She cannot trust, open up in her other fears, considering herself abandoned and humiliated, not worthy of happiness. And such pains and fears rarely lead to a state of trust and support in the family by husbands. She often cannot speak nice words, treat her husband kindly and ask for help. Or vice versa, it sticks like a burdock, dissolves in a husband and children. Everywhere following him and controlling her husband. Doubting yourself, afraid of betrayal, controlling everything.
Rule 4
Everything that is negative in your life and childhood needs to be reviewed and healed. All the difficult moments when you were thrown and put by men and other people should be corrected.
Mistake 5
It is easy for men to enter into relationships with women in the image of a “girl”, or they like women who are masters of cooking delicious dishes. But life is long and in it you need to be able to be different. What used to be good can get boring over time, and here I often hear that I don’t want to change, I have to break myself. Those. remove the pain and become more trusting - is it breaking yourself?
Rule 5
All men are different, and one may like a type of woman that another simply does not accept. It is not worth focusing on any specific image. Even if you “hit the mark” - you have chosen the role that your man loves so much, you should not stay in it forever. You must understand that at different stages of the relationship, your behavior and image should be different - you do not cook the same dish every day all your life. Try on different roles: a girl, a queen, an uninhibited mistress, and a caring mother. Yes, and be sure to remember the hostess!
The main thing you need to remember is that role reversal must be fun for you too, otherwise it will be a bad unnatural game. Pamper a man more often with a bright scenario for a new day, and he will not want any other woman.
Changing yourself does not mean breaking, but it means gradually taking the steps that will allow you to look at life in a new way.
Mistake 6
“I will show him how cool and sexy I am, how everyone likes me. Let him appreciate me.
Rule 6
Of course, choosing a relaxed sexy look, you will never be deprived of attention. It is wonderful to be a sensual and uninhibited woman, but do not forget that this should be only for him. Otherwise, you want to attract the intense undressing glances of other men? Then why do you need your man when you still want other men to “stack in stacks”?
The state of a relaxed woman in your man causes only jealousy, and a desire to put you in a cage. Such a woman does not meet such ideas of a man as fidelity, reliability, high values, care. Namely, this is what he wants to see in his potential wife.
Error 7
“I will be a wonderful wife for him. We will buy a house in Switzerland, and he will also buy me a shop there.”
Rule 7
How many times have they told the world, and women continue to build castles in the air and persistently populate a man in them. And they are disappointed. Just so you know, waiting is only 50% success and 50% failure. And believe that it is better to rejoice at an unexpected surprise than to shed tears because of shattered unfulfilled expectations.
Learn to set goals so that later you can go to them with your man. Inspire him, support him, share your desires. And then the man himself will want to "get a star from the sky for you."
Error 8
A woman has a brighter emotionality and complicates everything. Therefore, relationships lose their ease. Claims, doubts, heaps of grievances appear ... Remember that it is easy for women to turn an elephant from a fly.
Rule 8
Remember when your explosive nature brought you trouble! I'm saying this because I know you've had it too. Female impulsiveness and the inability to “hold your sharp tongue” at the right time is one of the popular reasons for breakups.
Don't let your momentary mood decide your fate. A man can endure for a while, make allowances for your nature, but in the end he will still leave the one that constantly throws tantrums or saws. Be easy to communicate in any situation.
Bring positivity, joy and generosity of positive emotions. Don't make negative decisions - give yourself
boil over, work on draining emotions and the results will amaze you.
Family happiness is where ease and tranquility live in communication.
Error 9
Successful women often demonstrate: “Look what a queen I am”! And you?
Rule 9
The arrogance of a woman in men's opinion is one of the main repulsive qualities. The demonstrative behavior of the Queen, when “everyone is around and there is no way to call them” does not add any points to a woman in the eyes of a man. You immediately want to put such women in their place, because men see them as a rival.
Let the man feel like a King. Do not compete with him on the status step, let him spread his wings and be a little more successful than you, show weakness - it's nice! And if he becomes king, then you will be queen.
Error 10
Entering into a relationship, a woman is in her expectations:
“Will he suit me as a husband? Can he provide for me? What kind of father will he be? And even getting married without getting their expectations, as there are no necessary skills to build a happy relationship. There are a lot of claims and mutual insults, which over the years grow into a snowball, subsequently getting in the way of happiness in the family. And the woman does not understand what is the reason, she sees only the consequences - the cooling of her husband and the loss of his interest in herself.
And all the time the woman is on the swing, did I choose the right man? There are doubts that this is your man. and these doubts eat up some of the energy that could fill like the sun, even on a cloudy day.
Rule 10
Your priority task is to stop doubting, and bet not on your husband, but on yourself! It means thinking about how you can become a good wife yourself. Invest new knowledge and skills in yourself. By shifting the focus in this way, you will strive for excellence and develop, which a man will certainly appreciate. And if he gets his goodies in a relationship, then the man will never let go and will fight for you to the end.