The answer is more simple than it seems at first. It`s just a fear, which freeze you to the bones and doesn’t let you to keep going. And your main aim in such situation should be to get rid of this paralyzing fear to start healthy relationship and move on due to the plan.

How to freedom from the fear?

1. Take a list of paper and write down everything you afraid of. Then write, what is the reason to be afraid of this thing? Which scenarios of solving that do you see? As soon as you write answers to the questions, you will understand the whole picture of your fears, and that most of them are imaginary and groundless.

2. In case your fears exist since your last relationship experience – it`s time to let them go. Accept the lesson and look forward: carrying the burden from ex relationship into new would not have “happy end” result. You can simply blow a chance while thinking about your past mistakes.

3. Imagine your life being like this forever. Boring routine while decades and nothing more. And one day you will understand that you haven’t been living not a day, you just existed. And it is all because of fear to step on new way, to make a decision, to try something new.

All of our fears are only live in our heads. And it is only your decision: to obey to your fear or to be brave and do something new. Try to let go all of your fears, because life is too short to be afraid of something. Enjoy every second and try to build your life exactly like you want to.
And what barriers are we talking about? Well, it is all about the communication. There are different kinds of barriers:
• Perception barrier;
• Behavioral barrier;
• Language barrier;
• Emotional barrier;
• Cultural barrier;
• Gender-based or social barrier.

The same words can be understood in different ways, it depends on the intonation you use while answering your question or speaking. If you will say something emotionally and with loud tone, you will be negatively interpreted. If you repeat the same but with a smile on your face, the reaction will be different. That’s why it is important to pay attention to what you say and how you do this to get reaction you need. Let`s take a closer look on the main communicative barriers which can appear during communication and how to prevent them.

#1 Perception barrier 😱
Your indifference and skepticism feels a lot during communication, even if you try to put on a mask with any other emotions. Other person will lose interest in your dialogue and her/his desire to continue conversation very fast. The best decision is to start dialogue from the smile, establish contact with the person and show your emotions in conversation in correct way.

#2 Behavioral barrier 🤯
Condescending tone or unstable self-esteem also can become a barrier between you and a person you speak to. If this person doesn’t pretend to have much credit with you, so probably all the information you say will be perceived through the prism of suspicion or will be ignored at all. Try to communicate on equal terms with everyone, be honest and make little compliments to people.

#3 Language barrier 😶
Misunderstanding it is a problem which can show up as in conversation between two native speakers of different languages, so between two specialists in one sphere but with different achievement levels. Imagine: your company hired new worker, and you started to explain him/her new program on your professional slang. In this case person won`t understand everything and it will be a reason to the barrier to appear. In such situation it would be better to explain everything in easier way, without any terminology.

#4 Emotional barrier 😓
Problems at home or at work, inner struggles can negatively affect communication and perception of new information. Any inappropriate phrase from other person can destabilize you. Learn how to turn negative emotions “off” for some time and focus on a dialog.

#5 Cultural barrier 🌏
In our multicultural world there is a big chance to meet a person of another culture and belief, who may have different point of view on life. If you start talking about wine-tasting to a person who doesn’t drink alcohol because of her/his religion, there will be misunderstanding and tense. In such case try to get to know person as good as possible to avoid such awkward situations like this.

#6 Gender-based or social barrier 👫
Some things which counts as normal for men may be unacceptable for women. Because of different popular stereotypes about woman there can be undervaluing of their professional characteristics, and vice versa. In this situation try not to focus on a sex of a person while conversation. Treat people as equals, avoid stereotypes.

Now it is all clear with the barriers. But what about the communication in relationships?

If you interact with couples who have lived happily for decades, you will learn from them very simple truths of healthy relationships. I have collected the most important of them for you below.

Do not save, but express your feelings and emotions 💁🏻‍♀️
The trust in each other is built on the openness of partners. If someone is unable or afraid to talk about how they feel, nothing good will come of the relationship.

Don't blame your partner in your own problems 🙅🏻‍♀️
Subconsciously, people understand that their beloved is innocent. But it is they who turn out to be close, therefore, they take the blow of accusations of all troubles and fuckups. Of course, this is wrong and spoils the relationship a lot.

Learn to listen to your loved one! 😇
Yes, literally listen, in the truest sense of the word. Delve into his conversations and reflections, take part in them and be a full part of all stories, and not just an observer.

Discuss plans and ideas more often 💬
It seems, why initiate a partner in your intentions to sign up for yoga, if you can confront a fact? But this is not very respectful. And the point is not to ask the man for permission, but let him know and understand your interests. Besides, what if your man also wants to meditate?

Find a hobby for your couple 🧩
This can include video games, cycling, cooking, going to the cinema or theater. It doesn't matter what you do together (other than sex, of course). The main thing is another cool opportunity to get to know each other.

Respect your partner's personal space 👩‍❤️‍👨
This is generally a must have, without this thing the relationship is doomed to abuse on someone's side. Each partner has equal right to be alone, engage in a hobby, devote time to their hobbies, or even relax separately from a loved one. And that's okay. It's not normal for people to go crazy without each other.

Be able to forgive 🙏🏻
Broken cup, anniversary late and cheating. Of course, it's always up to you to decide. But, if you feel that your loved one is very repentant or realizes the stupidity of his action, you do not need to follow the advice of your friends and put an end to the relationship, no matter how terrible his action is.

Follow these simple advices and any communication will be successful and pleasant.❤️