Today at lunch I was drinking coffee and thinking about the topic "We choose, we are chosen, and very often this choice does not coincide." Why is it that you can't feel anything for a person who suits you in many ways: place of residence, age, education, interests, even spiritual qualities. No chemistry, no attraction. You are annoyed by his voice, touch and even presence. Why are women who have almost all the angelic qualities listed in their questionnaires unable to arrange their personal life for years? Have never been married, have no children by the age of 40. Is it worth paying attention to it, or will it be tolerated - will they love it? What is more important than feelings or reason?. I understand that ideally, of course, feelings should go hand in hand with reason. But this, unfortunately, does not happen often, especially when you are no longer 20 years old. I asked this question to my friends who have been married for 19 years. So those who married by reason (calculation) chose feelings. Now they really miss them. And only the one who got married, just because the time came, chose reason. She fell in love with her husband only after the birth of her daughter...