1. LOVE AND CARE
The most important thing in a healthy relationship is sincere mutual love. Partners take care of each other both in words and in deeds, constantly demonstrating that they value and love each other.

2. HONESTY
In a healthy relationship, partners do not lie to each other and do not hide the truth. Such relationships are transparent, there is no place for deceit in them.

3. READINESS TO ACCEPT YOUR PARTNER AS HE IS
You've probably heard that you shouldn't start a relationship hoping to change your partner over time. Whether it's a very serious problem like a drug addiction or something small like not washing the dishes all the time, if you expect him or her to behave differently, you're likely to be disappointed.

Yes, people can and do change, but they themselves must want it. You cannot force your partner to change, no matter how much you love them.

4. RESPECT
Mutual respect means that partners consider each other's feelings and treat their partner the way they would like to be treated. Respect allows you to exclude situations when it seems to one of the partners that the second one puts pressure on him or tries to manipulate him. They are ready to listen to each other and respect the point of view of their partner.

5. MUTUAL ASSISTANCE
Partners have common goals. They don't try to put spokes in each other's wheels, they don't compete, they don't try to "beat" each other. Instead, mutual assistance and mutual support reign in the relationship.

6. PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL SAFETY
Partners do not feel wary or tense in each other's presence. They know that they can rely on a partner in any situation. They do not have to fear that their partner can hit them, yell at them, force them to do something they do not want, manipulate them, humiliate them or shame them.

7. MUTUAL OPENNESS
A sense of security allows you to fully open up to a partner, which, in turn, makes the connection of partners deeper. They know they can share their deepest thoughts and secrets without fear of judgment.

8. SUPPORT FOR PARTNER INDIVIDUALITY
Healthy attachment of partners to each other does not prevent them from setting their own goals in life and achieving them. They have personal time and personal space. They support each other, are proud of each other, and are interested in each other's hobbies and passions.

9. COINCIDENCE OF EXPECTATIONS
When the expectations of partners on the part of the relationship are very different, very often one of them is disappointed. It is important that the expectations of both are realistic and close to each other.

This applies to a variety of issues: how often they have sex, how they celebrate holidays, how much time they spend together, how they share household chores, and so on. If the views of partners on these and other issues differ greatly, it is very important to discuss the differences and find a compromise.

10. WILLING TO FORGIVE
In any relationship, partners happen to misunderstand each other and hurt each other - this is inevitable. If the “guilty” partner sincerely regrets what happened and really changes his behavior, he should be forgiven. If partners do not know how to forgive, over time, relationships will collapse under the weight of accumulated grievances.

11. WILLINGNESS TO DISCUSS ANY CONFLICTS AND CONTRADICTIONS
It's easy to talk to your partner when everything is going well, but it's more important to be able to constructively discuss any conflicts and grievances. In healthy relationships, partners always have the opportunity to tell each other what they are unhappy with or offended or disagree with - but in a respectful way.

They do not avoid conflicts and do not pretend that nothing happened, but discuss and resolve contradictions.

12. ABILITY TO JOY EACH OTHER AND LIFE
Yes, building relationships is hard work, but they should also be fun. Why do we need a relationship if the partners are not happy with each other's company, if they cannot laugh together, have fun and generally have a good time?

Remember that in a relationship, each of the partners not only takes something, but also gives. You have the right to expect your partner to comply with all of these rules, but you yourself must comply.