Quarrels, to a greater or lesser extent, occur in relationships. Especially depressing are repetitive quarrels that can be avoided, but not everyone understands exactly how. Be patient and adopt five reliable ways.

1. Be direct about everything.
To avoid quarrels and misunderstandings in a relationship, it is important to learn how to speak directly about everything, expressing your thoughts to your partner, and not scrolling through them in your head. No one will understand (and should not) what is in your head until you say it yourself. There is a problem, fear, fear - tell about it. Otherwise, everything will accumulate in your head and then at one fine moment you will give everything away - then you will definitely not be able to avoid a quarrel.

2. Be consistent in your actions
All parents are told that their actions and words must converge, otherwise the child will no longer take them seriously at all. The situation is the same with adults. Try to speak and act in concert, otherwise your partner will not understand you or will perceive everything as a joke, something not serious and just said on emotions.

3. Listen more than you talk
In the heat of a quarrel and raging emotions, I want to say something, for which later it can be embarrassing, ashamed or just unpleasant. Yes, by saying this, you will satisfy your desire to prick your opponent, but the one who first listens and then speaks always wins. This is a very important and valuable quality for family life, and it needs to be consciously trained.

4. Don't bring up the old
If you stick to the first point, then you won't get to that either. But in any case, try to leave the old showdowns in the past and not return to this now. Otherwise, problems from the past will pile up on the unresolved issues of today, and then the quarrel can be not only strong, but also quite long.

5. Admit Your Mistakes When You're Wrong
If in any situation you adhere to the position that only someone else is to blame, then you will not learn how to conduct a productive dialogue and will only aggravate the situation. Learning to admit your mistakes is important to you in the first place if you want to grow as a person. If you understand that there is your fault in this conflict, admit it and see how the situation will change dramatically.