Okay, so one of the biggest questions I keep reading in letters is "Are you serious in your search?" Ladies, I can pretty much promise you that any man who is willing to spend the time and money on an internet dating site is most likely serious in his search. In my case, as is the case with most of the men here, I have tried and failed many times to find a life-long relationship with a woman in my own country. I believe in certain things, and I can not be in a relationship with someone who doesn't hold true to the same relationship values that I have... What I mean by this is simple:

If you are in a relationship with someone, or want to be in a relationship with someone, you need to devote yourself 100% to that person alone. In other words, if you are talking to a man, and you are truly serious about being with him, then you have to show him you are serious. If he has already taken the step to request your contact information then you should be ready and willing to break off communications with other potential mates/future husbands. We may be men, but we also have insecurities. Especially when it comes to internet matchmaking. How can we be certain that we are not being taken advantage of, or being led into a fairy tale that has no happy ending? It would be all too easy to say "I believe that you want to be with me, and I am the only man in your life", but the reality is more along the line of "Is she truly waiting for me, or am I just one of a hundred men she is talking to?"

Most of us actually want to fall hopelessly and helplessly in love with one of you, and only one of you, but there is always a little voice in our head called doubt! Some of us are able to ignore it easily enough, but as time goes by and there is no progress in the potential relationship being made, it gets more and more difficult to do so. Then one day we wake up and feel like we have been betrayed again, and start to give up! I would love to see everybody on this site end up in a perfect, happy marriage with a nice house, a white picket fence, a dog & 2 cats, 2-3 laughing children, and a husband/wife that we can't imagine living without! Unfortunately, though, things like life and money get in the way of blissful love...

Personally, I am not one to give up on my dreams. But I tend to forget those dreams when things seem to start working against me, so I begin to create a new dream with greater potential in the hope that maybe, just maybe, fate/destiny will smile on me this time. I am now 36, have been divorced, have had my heart shattered to the point of not wanting to go on any longer, and have been made to feel like I am not good enough for anyone! But you know what? I have always pulled through! However, my dream to finally find myself in a happy, everlasting love is beginning to fade quickly. And the reason is doubt. I don't doubt that most of you ladies sincerely want to find your happiness, but I do doubt that most of you would be content talking to just one man...

Please don't take offense to that statement! I am not saying that you wouldn't be faithful and loyal to the man you choose to be with. In fact, I believe that you would be the most faithful wife to him! That is why I came searching for women in your part of the world. But what I am asking is this:

Are you willing to pin your hopes on a man who you can only see on a computer screen?