A happy, healthy relationship is the absence of fear: to make mistakes, to fall out of love, to be abandoned.
And it’s not at all about the fact that you need to behave badly, hoping that they will forgive you endlessly - even strong feelings burn out if they are constantly tested for strength - this is a fact.
But when, at the slightest mistake of yours or as a result of a misunderstanding of your words or actions, they show you the door, even after they favorably call you back - you cannot find happiness in such a relationship. But low self-esteem and even neurosis get elementary, enough neglect in response to your tenderness.
Love is the acceptance of the world of another person, even if it is different from yours, respect and desire to make this world happier and more beautiful. And only in such love wings grow in the soul, because you know that you will not be rejected, not repelled, not exchanged for anyone else, breaking your heart to smithereens, because it is in good hands.