Hello everyone who reads my blog. Work on relationships is an essential work, because if there is no movement, life in a relationship, sooner or later they are doomed.
Working on relationships is a constant analysis of what is happening in a couple, identifying the causes, an attempt to influence the situation and the partner with conscious special actions. This is the art of being yourself in a relationship with a loved one, not trying to play someone and appear. The same applies to a partner: you need to accept him as he is, with all the shortcomings.

Each of us, having heard "we need to work on relationships," understands that we need to DO something. WHAT?????)))) This is where the stupor begins. Because none of us SPECIFICALLY knows what it is and what exactly needs to be done.

We begin to feverishly try this or that, considering our man a guinea pig - maybe something will work))

If you NEED to work on a relationship, it's a sick relationship. We work at work. By building WORKING relationships with people whom we did not choose, with whom we HAVE to coexist, preferably not killing each other, but doing some kind of common cause for money and material values.

In relationships with loved ones - we relax, we express and behave as freely and calmly as if we were alone. When no one sees us. In relationships with loved ones - we are who we are. Easily.

Everything else is violence, it is a working (business) relationship. It's anything - a business project, a hostel, a place to raise common children. But not love.

Relationship work is needed only in one case.

When we tolerate the WRONG person around.