First option.
A woman who does not live with a man, but for years can dream about him, keep his image in her head. She can get the thing that belongs to him and cultivate her feelings intensely. In such a situation, a woman suffers or rejoices, scrolling through a whole film with his participation. Often a woman in every possible way follows her admirer in the social. networks, asks mutual friends about him, etc.
ALL THIS IS VERY LIKE A CHILD - ADOLESCENT'S LOVE TO THE IDOL. This idol that lives in the head of a woman captured her completely and in such a state, the woman feels that she is not alone. As a rule, she has a lot of vivid emotions, "I love, I'm jealous, I rejoice, I suffer"
SHE IS IN A STATE OF EUPHORIA
What else does this situation give a woman? This introduces her to an illusory world, where everything she experiences turns into a romantic series, where she is her own director, “I want and I will go on a trip with him, I want and we will buy a house with him, I want and he will love me madly”
What's wrong with this situation? A WOMAN IS NOT FREE. She has no space for new real relationships. She is not open to something constructive and new. And the reason is fear. She is afraid of real relationships, because in this illusory world, she is her own director, and in real life she can be really very scared and hurt. It's a way of escaping reality
Second option.
A woman is in a relationship, it can be her lover, husband, friend, that is, she is close to him. And in such a relationship, she is madly in love with him, but he does not. He may respect her, but he has no partisan involvement, and perhaps never had. This causes the woman to be in great suffering.
Why is this happening? Most often, a woman repeats the relationship that she had in childhood. The relationship that was between her parents, namely when dad cheated on mom, mom suffered a lot, and the woman unconsciously repeats this scenario. She also lives with a man who does not love her, and he is most likely cheating on her, but this situation is very familiar to her. She lives, rejoices or suffers just as her mother once did. In such a situation, it is absolutely normal for a woman to be a shadow leader in a servant format, because a woman who is not loved by a man most often plays the role of a mother in a relationship.
Both the first and second options are examples of unhealthy, painful, selfish relationships.
If you have situations similar to those described above, then you need to consult a psychologist.