I often wondered on this site, what is the real perception of time frames and guidelines we should all consider when choosing a special person to love and spend the rest of your life with. I am going to address the post from Mike James regarding the question whether this site is a scam or not. Interesting topic for sure, and most of his comments I agree with. But, the time frame he mentions and the fact that no one belongs here unless he has unlimited funds to spread to different ladies spending hours in chat and gifts without concern for costs involved and especially the time frame of when do you progress to actually spending private time with this person you have interest in so you can make a choice together. Yes, it involves both the men and women here. I have to totally disagree with that concept and to tell the truth I have been a victim many times in other sites and also here. I think I can speak for the majority of men here, maybe even about 90% of them, that it is very wrong to drag out chit chat and endless letter writing without progressing any further in a decision or choice. I have a time frame in mind that based on previous experience in dealing with a dating site and in my opinion if you end up writing letters and very rare chat with someone for more than 4 or 5 months, then this site is being abused by both parties. It is not designed for this. You may not agree with me, and that is ok because you have to live with that game in your life. I feel, as well as most others here, including women, that letters shared in an honest way only takes 2 months maximum for you to know whether you want to pursue further beyond letters and chats here. By this time, you either decide that you are friends, but nothing more is possible. You better have personal contact outside using the phone, personal emails and even the many chat systems available for no charge. If you do not have the desire to meet in person, which is a thousand times better than 3 years of writing letters and not going anywhere. If it goes beyond that, you have lost any way you look at it. It is outright abuse of any dating site, including this one. So, Mr James, most men here believe this and we all try to make common sense decisions. Even if I had the resources financially to do what you suggest and spend what you say is not much, but in my opinion spending thousands of dollars a month is not common sense or even possible for most people. Yes, these women here are worth more than diamonds, and are priceless in my opinion. All we have to do is find the one that fits us, and has the same common sense of time frame and other options to grow together, then we all are winners, men and women both. So, thank you for voicing your opinion and allowing me to show another side of this dating game in Ukraine. It has been a very rewarding experience for me here and I know others feel that way also. I wish you good luck in your search and hope that you are successful. To all the men and women here, I wish the same outcome and look forward to many success stories printed here.