Such a woman can be called selfish, but men do not think so. A girl who loves herself attracts guys by first of all thinking about herself, her beloved, putting her interests first. She knows how to voice her demands. Rarely compromises and tries to provide himself with comfortable conditions. Perhaps it bothers men at first, but then they get used to women's whims and are happy to fulfill all the requirements presented to them.
If you ask any man if he likes a girl who communicates on an equal footing with all representatives of the stronger sex, most likely they will answer that no, because they prefer modest and shy ladies. However, in practice everything looks different, and it is sociable, sociable women that guys like the most. Men have to constantly monitor them, be jealous, take care of them in order to demonstrate their superiority over all other applicants for the hand and heart of a lady. They spend a lot of energy on this, and it doesn't make sense to waste it, so guys appreciate what is hard for them!!
Theoretically, guys want to deal with serious and consistent girls who are able to think a hundred steps ahead, because it's easier for them to communicate with such. But in real life, they still prefer lighter and more unpredictable ladies. Men are attracted to women-riddles, because they need to be solved all the time and wait for surprises. You can't get bored with such girls, and this aspect, it turns out, is very important in a relationship. Predictability gets boring quickly, but moderate levity keeps you in a pleasant tension all the time.
And what is your feminine ideal???