Hello once again to all the wonderful people on this site!!! It seems some of us have been silent for way too long, and questions are starting to come up that shouldn't need to be asked. I have been registered here for something like a year now, and have had many enjoyable conversations. I would like to take this opportunity to put down some of the nasty rumors that I have been reading about this site in particular, especially regarding so-called "Internet Scam Advice Columnists". First of all, sites like this will always come under fire from people who don't subscribe to them because at one time, long ago, these things actually were scam sites. But that was in the earliest days of internet dating, and that is not usually the case anymore. Granted, there may be some users who still try to scam through dating sites, but those are usually on sites that require a credit card to join. That is because your credit card information is stored, and can be accessed at any time to charge additional "usage fees". This site has not caused me any problems at all, and the only charges I receive are ones that I voluntarily incurred. Secondly, many of those internet scamming advisors are, in fact, the scammers themselves... They hate the fact that they can't get hold of your information from a secure site like this, and try to steer you toward some other type of site... And thirdly, there are some advice columnists that have legitimately tried using these sites. But if you really look at it, they usually got kicked off or quit because of being rudeness, vulgarity, and disregard for the rules of these sites. Example, old Curly Joe from BigCity, USA joined a dating site to try to coerce some pretty, young girls into giving him some intimate pictures and contact information. He met little success, because such things were against the rules and he got caught. So Admin kicked him off the site, and banned him forever. Now, having no girls to exploit, he wants to try to get revenge by bad-mouthing the site in an advice column.
You see, there are a lot of men who come to these sites with no decent intentions. They talk to the ladies as though they are prostitutes and get angry when the ladies won't let them get away with that. On that note, it is something that you ladies have to watch out for as well... If you try talking to a man, and all he does is use obscene language and ask you to undress for him, chances are he is not looking at you as a potential bride. If you want to be certain of your man's intentions, try asking him about real life things such as children, work, hobbies. If he tries to talk about intimate things right away, and stops talking to you if you don't, you are probably much better off. I'm not saying you shouldn't talk about such topics eventually, but it should be something that is built up to, not dropped on you from the very beginning.
And some REAL advice for the men here... most of these ladies are good, decent women. They deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. I have received letters from ladies here that tell of how they were talking to a guy for such a long time, and then for no apparent reason they find themselves alone. It is a sad situation... And I agree with hotdrivinginstructor that you should not lead a girl on when you have no true intention of being with her. But ladies, just because a guy strikes up a conversation with you or offers you some advice that you requested, it does not mean that he is proposing to you. Many men I know like to help when we are needed.
Anyway, I'm sure that's enough of my blabbing, and I want to thank the Admin in advance for taking the time to read through all of my ranting. For all I know, they may be the only ones who ever read this. But at least I made the effort, and if anyone else happens to read this, I want to thank you as well! And of course, feedback and comments are always welcome!