Relationships with a large age difference are usually more difficult to build, you have to spend more time and make extra efforts to come to an agreement. But this does not mean that the relationship between partners of different ages is doomed from the start. First of all, the fate of a relationship depends on emotional maturity and the desire to be together.
The “ideal” age for a relationship is a very arbitrary concept. Some studies call the optimal difference of 5-7 years, others narrow this range to 3 years. There is no consensus on what difference in years in a relationship is considered too big. Usually the figures are 10-16 years. In real life, it's even more difficult. Some people soon divorce a partner of about their age, and for some, a gap of 20 years is not an obstacle to living happily ever after. It's a matter of emotional maturity. Someone already at the age of 25 becomes a realized person and knows what he wants from life, relationships. And someone at 60 continues to search for himself, he believes that he is not yet ready to start a family.
Much depends on the reasons why a person builds a relationship with someone who is much older or younger than him. Sometimes people just meet, love arises between them, and over time they only understand more and more that they feel good together. But often there are other motives: some of them can play a plus, and some eventually destroy the relationship.
Why do we not choose peers?
Speaking about relationships with an age difference, first of all it is worth noting that they are of two types, and there are a number of differences between them: when a man or a woman plays the role of a senior partner.
When a man is much older. Such a difference in relationships by age was common before, it is often found now. She is perceived in society as absolutely normal, and the man even receives approval from others: “What a beauty he grabbed!” He is usually over 40, he has experience in relationships and in life in general, he may already have children from his first marriages. What pushes him to bond with a young woman?
Often the desire to prove to himself and others that he is still capable of much. Realize your experience, life wisdom, the desire to be the head of the family and take care of its members - especially if these impulses could not be manifested in a previous marriage. Many look for partners much younger than themselves in an effort to catch up.
The reason for the age difference in relationships may be more prosaic: a man really wants to have a child, maybe not even one - and his peers can no longer offer this. Some men have problems of a sexual nature, and they believe that the situation will improve if they find a young partner.
Women who choose partners much older often seek a sense of stability, security, and material security. Among older men, there is a higher probability of meeting someone who has made a career, has decided on life priorities - he will be there, he will not suddenly run anywhere in search of a better life.
Some women are driven by pride: "a respectable wealthy man drew attention to me." Often, mercantile interest comes to the fore, in which a woman can honestly admit to herself and her partner. Older men, as a rule, are more willing to accept women's children from a previous marriage, and they can provide their own children with a decent future.
Relationships with an age difference when a woman is older. This type of relationship is not traditional and is often condemned even in modern society, however, it is now becoming more common. Usually a woman in such a pair has already managed to make a career, achieve a high social position. She is looking for a partner much younger than herself, because young people meet her needs - they seem to her more attractive, it is interesting with them, there is an opportunity to feel beautiful, young, desirable again.
Men, on the other hand, often enter into such relationships in order to gain experience, to get reliable support in the form of an experienced partner. Of course, the desire to improve one's material and social position also plays a role. A mature life partner can not only indulge in expensive gifts, but also promote her career and provide useful connections.