🎀 Each of us has a different approach to dating, finding and developing romantic relationships. Awareness of the variability of the meanings that different people put into the word “love” helps to better understand oneself and a potential partner and interact more effectively with others. People suffer because of unrealistic expectations, 3 approaches that can be used when looking for a relationship: demanding, indecisive and idealizing. Knowing your category and the style of behavior that corresponds to it, you will be able to more clearly present your romantic prospects and improve your personal life. READ CAREFULLY ❣

💖 1. Demanding
People who practice this approach form unrealistic expectations from a partner. They believe that a long search and numerous attempts at relationships will someday lead them to that very ideal.

Representatives of this category are sure that if they have not yet met “their” person, it means that they simply considered an insufficient number of potential partners. They are looking for impossible perfection, which ultimately prevents them from building a healthy relationship.

In fact, even if you think someone is perfect at the beginning, this impression dissipates over time. And this is normal: people tend to change, and love — to move to new stages. Logan Urie advises demanding idealists to remember that good relationships can only be built, not found.

Each of us has our own strengths and weaknesses. The main thing is to make an effort to create the relationship of your dreams, and not wait for them to come to you 💯

💖 2. Indecisive

With this approach, another problem comes to the fore: unrealistic expectations from oneself. Indecisive people wait for the “right” moment to get into a relationship. For example, when they get a high-profile position or when they change their image. “They always have some reason why they can’t start a relationship right now)

People with an indecisive approach usually want to become the best version of themselves before they meet a potential partner. But they forget that personal growth is possible only when we act, and not passively wait for changes.

If you recognize yourself, the expert recommends leaving your comfort zone and exploring how different people and relationships affect you. You can push yourself to work on your personal life — not only downloading dating apps for a certain period of time or buying clothes for dates, but also making appointments.

Dating is a skill and can only be improved with regular practice. You can't wake up one day and be 100% ready for a relationship. Stop waiting and start dating someone 💯

💖 3. Idealizing

People who take this approach truly love love. This leads them to have unrealistic expectations of a relationship, patterns of how it should look and even start.

Such people want a magical love story - like walking around the market and reaching for a tomato at the same time as an attractive stranger. Idealizing romantics often dream that they will instantly understand that they are facing the same person.

They usually don't use dating apps or do anything to improve their love lives, simply because they find it unromantic. In addition, they have specific ideas about what their partner should be like. And these requirements are immediately excluded from the list of candidates who do not meet them.

I often have to tell romantics that I don't believe in soulmates. There are many people with whom you can build relationships and be happy) 💯

💖💖 The way we start a relationship is only the initial step on the path to love. It is important to be open to everyone. Perhaps you are obsessed with a certain type of appearance or character. But it’s not a fact that such a person will actually give you happiness, do you agree with me?

Which my dear, are you using the approach? 💓