Start a serious relationship with the wrong person. - this is the fastest and most affordable way to ruin your life.
Remember that choosing a partner is the most meaningful interview you will ever have in your life. Only a few lucky ones succeed in its successful implementation, and not because they are stupid or naive, but because they are psychologically traumatized.

I want to list six main reasons that prevent us from making the right choice. And maybe you will have that happy relationship. But most importantly, you need to learn to treat yourself well!

1 Unwillingness to disappoint
Self-care requires a willingness to reject someone in the name of self-protection. Sometimes you have to say “no” to defend your priorities, but upsetting your loved one is practically a crime. He is so smart and kind. Almost always. And now for several days in a good mood. How dare I disappoint him, given that he loves me? It's very difficult to let go of an established relationship, even if it's destructive, unhealthy, or toxic to you.

2. Self-loathing
We don't love ourselves very much. Sometimes we don't love at all. Therefore, when someone fools us, lies, fails, promises and does not do it, ignores tenderness and feelings, BUT our first, second limit does not go into “get up and leave”. We will continue to follow our usual trend. We will be wondering what did we do wrong to cause the problem? Maybe we misunderstood him, etc. Our past endowed us with defenselessness, which is now accompanied by the ability to disregard our feelings and trust others to the point of naivety ....

3. We are afraid to miss the opportunity
We so want to be loved, at least somehow ... and we are very scared that, having missed this chance, we will not wait for the next one. So we let the wrong people into our lives.

4. High expectations
Some people know how to hope, contrary to common sense, that the one from whom we expect love will one day magically change and become kind ... If we are polite and obedient long enough, sooner or later he will change his anger to mercy. But magic does not happen, and such people need to be removed from your life so that they do not poison your life.

5. We do not accept good
Lack of love takes away the taste for kindness. As adults, we perceive good people as boring, unsexy, and nerdy. Early installations are instilled in the subconscious, and we do not know what is wrong with this nice guy who invited me on a date. The spark didn't fly, the chemistry didn't work, the interests don't match? That is, it does not excite, because it is too kind. Strange, right? But this is how our perception of reality works, which it is time to leave in the past. And then try very hard to change the focus and let into your life a truly loving, kind, caring, sincere and faithful person.

6. We are afraid of loneliness
We often say to ourselves - Well, in fact, who else will need me? Yeah, of course, a knight on a white horse is about to ride ... And so we completely get involved in these unreasonable, unloved relationships, not giving ourselves a chance for a happy life! It is much safer to watch how hopes for love and harmony are drowned in the indifference of the unconsciously sadistic personality of the current partner.