CALL US BY NAME
“While we are not close enough to have special nicknames between us, we would like to hear our name more often. It highlights the interest. Otherwise, we begin to suspect that you are afraid to accidentally call us by the name of another woman. Don't call us the standard "baby" or "beauty".

Why is it important? “The pronunciation of the name becomes a symbol that a man singles her out - This is especially important at the beginning of a relationship. If in English-speaking countries such an address is considered a cultural norm, then for us a direct translation of these words sounds false and insincere.

When the relationship develops, the couple spontaneously develops their affectionate appeals - a kind of code of lovers, designed to emphasize the connection. In this case, the unexpected rejection of the adopted nickname and the desire to call the partner by name often has the opposite effect. This is a demonstration of discontent and a desire to symbolically mark the distance.

KEEP YOUR WORD
“If you talk about feelings, but do not back it up with real actions, then you send mixed signals. We react to them painfully, because we want honesty from the very beginning, and you call it a drama from scratch.

Why is it important? “A woman saves important resources for herself: the ability to bear children and raise offspring,” the expert explains. - She can become a mother a limited number of times, unlike a man, whose possibilities in terms of fatherhood are almost unlimited. This physiological difference largely determines the discrepancy between emotional reactions. A woman evaluates a candidate more critically, she needs to feel confident and protected.”

LISTEN
“You know that if you need to talk, we are ready to listen and understand you. We want you to listen to us, even when the story seems trivial and not worthy of attention to you, and remember what we are telling.”

Why is it important? “Most men think more abstractly than women and try to generalize information in order to immediately find the best solution,” says the psychologist. “This often leads to misunderstandings. A woman interprets the lack of interest in details as inattention and indifference. She often does not wait for practical answers, but seeks sympathy and a sense of emotional connection.

For a man, help is effective participation and resolution of the situation. Understanding this will help women not demand the impossible, and men will be better aware of the emotional request addressed to them.
HOLD US BY THE HAND
“It is important for us to display tactility, not related to sexual play. We love it when you take our hands in yours."

Why is it important? “The position in which a woman leans on the hand of a companion is more of a courtly gesture that suggests a respectful distance. Hand in hand is a sign of special closeness, a symbolic message to the world around me: I am holding the hand that is dear to me.

SHOW INITIATIVE
“We want to feel that you are thinking of us and approaching dates in a non-formal way. Come up with something to surprise and delight us. This does not always have to be associated with significant material costs. A picnic in nature, for which you have prepared everything in advance, will please us no less.

Why is it important? “A man who cares about the scenario of meetings, thereby denotes leadership, confidence in himself and in the future of the relationship,” says the psychologist. - He seeks the location of a woman and fights for her to choose him. To fully live the period of courtship as a stage in which a symbolic division of roles is realized: a woman shows the qualities of femininity, and a man of masculinity, is important for subsequent relationships.

TALK TO US MORE
“Write or call without any reason, we are pleased with the attention, take an interest in how the day went. It is important to feel that you are thinking about us and are looking forward to meeting you again.”

Why is it important? “The saying “a woman loves with her ears” reflects the fact that a significant part of impressions is connected with the perception of speech,” says Marina Myaus. - Text messages for a woman are equivalent to spoken words.

Men do not write and speak as much as women would like, but not because they are inattentive to them. Their verbal skills are not as well developed. However, research shows that there is mutual learning in long-term partnerships. Men's communication skills increase, while women adopt masculine qualities associated with endurance, logic and the ability to think abstractly.