Set boundaries



You still need to decide where your relationship will go after separation “on the shore”. Long-distance relationships will require more moral resources from you than the type of relationship we are used to, so it is best to save yourself from unnecessary hassle and senseless suffering in advance. There is nothing shameful in the fact that you do not plan to move in, buy a small cozy forest house and give birth to children. If at the moment it is enough for you to meet once or twice in a couple of months, drive together on the sea and have a good time with each other, pourquoi pas? It’s just that you need to decide what you still expect from these relationships, set priorities and set boundaries, as soon as possible.

"Call me"



Online communication is your lifeline. When people ask me how my boyfriend and I manage to create such a warm and sincere relationship, although we see each other every 2-3 months, I always answer: “We just communicate.”



The ability to talk with a partner on any topic, discuss plans for the future and just share your life is the number one must for any relationship. Openness and willingness to dialogue will help you take your relationship to a completely different level. The ability to share your problems, fears, anxieties, express your dissatisfaction or concern are incredibly important skills for any relationship in general, but especially for long-distance relationships.
Confidence



“Jealousy is a monster that both conceives and gives birth to itself,” said Shakespeare. And the writer certainly knew about love no less than modern Romeo and Juliet suffering from separation. Going crazy with jealousy when you don’t know where and with whom your partner can actually be right now is not the best prospect.



The feeling of jealousy that constantly haunts you, the fear of being deceived, the unceasing desire to control the life of your partner is a serious reason to work through the moments that concern you with a specialist. Well, if your partner now and then deliberately throws you reasons for jealousy, it may be worth asking a question about the seriousness of his intentions and your relationship.



Trust should be the axiom of your relationship. You don't need another city or even another district of your city to cheat on, and the feeling that distance gives more reasons for jealousy is completely false. If you are not ready to trust your partner, ask yourself the question: are you ready in principle to build a relationship with him?

Learn to live for yourself



The phrase “I really live only with you” only at first glance sounds very romantic. In fact, it hides a type of relationship that American psychologists would describe as an "unhealthy relationship." Undoubtedly, rare meetings with your loved one allow you to experience hundreds of positive emotions in three times, but it is important to remember that in between these infrequent (alas!) dates, life goes on.



Breaking up can be a great push to do something new. At the very least, to kill time that you could waste in tears and endless self-pity. Maybe you have long wanted to enroll in the hall? Or was there a dozen or two unread books lying around in the bookcase? Think about the opportunity to spend your free time with friends or even master the art of going to the movies alone (sometimes catching zen is even easier than during meditation!).



Learn to enjoy the life around you alone and take the time to explore yourself and learn new things. So the time until the next meeting with your soul mate will fly by much faster.

Create a sense of presence



In order not to once again remind yourself and your partner that kilometers separate you, try to make your online communication as less virtual as possible. For example, if you regularly celebrate some important date together, why not pour yourself some wine and clink glasses right through your computer monitor? Do not abandon your usual rituals and traditions just because you cannot be around right now.



And for your calls, it is not at all necessary to choose a secluded room and direct the marafet. You can talk and cook dinner, talk while going to a meeting, when walking down the street or even while sitting in the bathroom. And the message “Good morning” on the smartphone screen will help brighten up the sadness of lonely morning awakenings.



Our couple has a rather funny tradition, or better to say, a habit. When I can't sleep or just feel like I miss my favorite voice terribly, I call my boyfriend and ask him to tell me a story. It is incredibly calming and at the same time brings us closer, creates an atmosphere of warmth, comfort and homeliness around.
Regular meetings



No matter how cozy and warm your online evenings are and no matter how eventful your daily routine is, meetings after a long separation will still be the most joyful and enjoyable moment of your personal life.



And the best thing to brighten up the expectation of the next rendez-vous is the confidence that this meeting will still take place. Sometimes she will have to wait a month, two or three, but a precisely appointed date of a date on a subconscious level will help make the waiting process not so painful and stressful.



We have a choice of tickets and counting the day when we will see each other again turns into a small tradition: when we meet, we look at the tickets for the flight together, plan the next “date” and even immediately think about what films we will watch and what delicious things can be cooked on breakfast. It really does make the separation a little less emotional and the time without each other less painful.