It is sometimes difficult for all of us to respect our choice, to understand and accept it. Desire usually leads us into a fantasy world, and choice brings us back to reality.

They say wisdom is emotion plus reason. This also applies to decision making. Choices made on the basis of desire, as well as choices that reject it, often plunge us into the abyss of disappointment. When making a choice, if possible, take into account your deepest aspirations, decide what is feasible only in dreams, and what is real.

Desire always exaggerates something and understates something. Remember: we always embellish what we want. If we feel unwanted, our perception is distorted. As you analyze your choice, think about what influenced it.

Without daring to marry, it would be possible to build relationships with others in any way. Without going to law school, one could live the free life of an itinerant philosopher or writer.

Oh, if only I could go on a trip! Now everything would be completely different. If you do not start a family, do not settle in the suburbs and do not give birth to children, nothing would prevent you from living a risky, adventurous life of a fighter for the good of all mankind.

Whatever we dream about, we often run into desire-related problems because we feel constrained by our own choices. But the opportunity to choose what we really want is not always there.

Our choice is not always so sad. The main thing that we cannot forgive and accept is our one and only life. We don't get a lot. Desire makes us move forward and enjoy being, but it can also enslave us if we do not understand what we want. If you feel worthless or something is preventing you from fulfilling your dream, think about what you might be missing in reality.

Neglecting desires is costly. We tend to object, resent, repress our desires, punish others or ourselves. As Socrates said, “mortal hatred often springs from deep desires.”

It is not worth denying desire: it is better to clearly identify it and allow yourself to look at it with an open mind, to see it as it is, even if you do not manifest it outwardly. You can also think about whether it lies at the basis of your hatred of something or someone.

Love and carnal passion do not always go hand in hand. Who hasn't mistaken attraction for love? How about loving without longing? As the relationship develops, desire can either flare up or fade away. Sometimes it manifests itself synchronously with the feeling of love, sometimes it is felt independently of it. We can feel a burning attraction to a person we don't love and love someone we don't want.

Desires depend on our self-perception. When we feel attractive and successful, we are more likely to be attracted, and not necessarily to those we love.