Be yourself
True love is when you are loved for who you are. And if you hide it, then how will a man understand that you are his soul mate? Figure out who you are, never be ashamed of it, develop your strengths and fight those you don't like (after all, antipathy towards them is also part of you). Nothing new: first love yourself, and then others can do the same.

Don't look for perfection
The clearer the image (blue-eyed athletic brunette under 35, works as an architect, loves cats and travel), the more likely you are to miss your real soulmate. More than once or twice we have heard stories of how women really fell in love with men who at first glance seemed to them completely inappropriate partners. Sometimes it takes time to understand: this plump (or even bald!) blond dog man is better than all the brunettes, taken together even with Tom Hiddleston.
Don't expect everything to be perfect all at once.
We get nervous on dates and that's why we do a lot of stupid things. We tell ridiculous jokes, for some reason we begin to explain long and confusingly who Tanya was mentioned in passing, we show photos of pets for a long time in the hope that this will give time to come up with a good topic for conversation. It's okay if things didn't go the way you wanted. If you like a person, give him a second chance: most likely, when he stops being nervous, you will get the very date that you wanted.

Do not rush
If someone's clock is ticking, then let him watch them. And you need time to understand: this person is exactly the one who is needed. Don't be afraid to go on dates or refuse them to think: what exactly do I need? There is nothing wrong with taking a step back. Maybe it is needed in order to return to the fork and go in another direction that will lead you to the goal.

Invest in yourself, not in searches
Use every possible way to know yourself. Try new activities, study, travel, train. If you see something interesting, feel free to take the time to get in touch with it. In search of a soul mate, this works much better than trying to visualize the man of your dreams - if only because there will be more real guys in your life to choose from.
Don't follow your emotions
Chemistry and butterflies in the stomach are great, but they do not at all mean that you have a soul mate in front of you. Do not rush to declare someone a soul mate just because at the sight of this man, feelings are born that no other person has evoked before. Especially when this happens after good sex: the hormone of attachment oxytocin produced during it is another traitor who has deceived more than one woman.

Look for someone who accepts you
No “if only you lost weight” or “I’ll marry if you love to cook.” You are who you are and should only change when you want to. Do you have disagreements? This is fine. But when you discuss them, you should not for a second leave the feeling that a man treats you and your values \u200b\u200bwith respect and is ready to compromise.

Get ready to work on relationships
This is banal advice that never ceases to be effective. There will be no miracle, magic is forbidden outside Hogwarts: if you do not spend time getting to know each other, do not discuss the problems that have arisen and are not ready to make concessions, then true love will not have a single chance to bloom. And one more important nuance: you need to do it together. If you spend time and energy, and your partner only watches it, then this is not a soul mate, but a freeloader who expects that you yourself will do all the work.

Don't Expect True Love to Meet All Your Needs
A soul mate is not a panacea that saves you from all life's difficulties. No one can be your best friend, rock wall, inspiration and support at the same time. The second person is only a partner with whom you will be better together than without him, but by no means a universal cure for all spiritual wounds, pain and disappointments. But there is good news: no one has the right to demand from you to be a muse, a mistress, a mother, a housekeeper and a sidekick all rolled into one.

They don't look for a soul mate, they are assigned
And most importantly, never forget that in the end, you make the choice. Your willingness to continue matters much more than the recommendations of all astrologers and natal charts put together, and your desire to end a relationship is more significant than the predictions of even the most experienced fortune teller. Never be afraid to say no and yes: relationships will be much more valuable when you know to choose them yourself.