Psychologists identify four main types of attachment in a relationship. Of these, only reliable is characterized as qualitatively acceptable for personal happiness, and the remaining three are considered violations that interfere with it.

1. Reliable type of attachment
Characterized by a positive image of himself and a positive image of others - that is, a person with this type knows how to value himself and trust others. People with secure attachment are open to a partner, not afraid of emotional intimacy, they want and can be loving and sincere. According to psychologists, the chances for harmony in a life together are highest for characters with a secure attachment, which contributes to a positive perception of romantic relationships and overall satisfaction.

2. Anxious type of attachment
Characterized by a negative image of himself and a positive image of others ("I'm bad / oh, they are good"): this type torments himself with doubts and anxieties, especially if the object of love is cold or reserved. A person with anxious attachment is characterized by an ardent desire for emotional intimacy, a need for constant confirmation of the feelings of a partner, which often leads to codependency in relationships. People with such attachment are characterized by self-doubt, jealousy, emotional expression.

3. Avoidant-rejecting type of attachment
Psychologists attribute the third and fourth types of attachment to those that are acquired in adulthood, as a result of experience: they are unknown to children. Avoidant-rejecting attachment is characteristic of independent persons, for whom a high degree of closeness and openness in feelings is unacceptable. Most often, they are selfish, since their “working” model is a positive image of themselves and a negative image of others, which explains the aloofness in romantic relationships. This type of attachment is on the defensive, suppressing and hiding its emotions.

4. Anxious-avoidant attachment
This type of attachment is characterized by a negative image of oneself and a negative image of others and usually manifests itself in those who have actually suffered in a relationship - from physical, moral or sexual abuse. It is difficult for such people to be loving and open, despite the desire for intimacy. The desire to move away is dictated by the fear of being rejected and discomfort from contacts of any kind. They not only do not trust a partner, but also do not consider themselves worthy of love.

Lucky people with a secure type of attachment are more likely to be satisfied with relationships than people with other options - both mutual understanding in communication and sexual interaction. They want intimacy, appreciate devotion, trust each other and have every chance of a fabulous "and they lived happily ever after."
At the same time, long-term relationships happen in people with other types of attachment. For example, an anxious type is capable of long-term relationships, while suffering endlessly from many negative experiences. Such characters are afraid of being abandoned, they are not sure of their significance for a partner and his feelings. Every day they live contrary to their beliefs, struggling to keep their fragile happiness.