WHAT NOT TO DO IF YOU ARE CRITICIZED?
1. Completely deny, avoid or ignore the other person's remark. In other words, pretend like nothing happened or "change the subject." Keeping the situation quiet usually guarantees even more unresolved problems in the future, the risk of returning to the same "closed topic" later and the accumulation of negative emotions.

2. The most common reaction to criticism is not just resentment, but rather an aggressive response. Which, for objective reasons, is not the best tactic.

3. another form of rejection of other people's criticism is to make excuses about what happened. More often than not, this is even more annoying - the other person decides: you are ignoring his point of view, not giving it any importance, or deliberately do not want to ask for forgiveness.

HOW TO RESPOND TO CRITICISM?
#1. The easiest way to find out what a harsh or sarcastic critic meant is to ask him or her about it. Feel free to ask the questions! What exactly don't you like? What makes you think I shouldn't do it? Did what I said offend you? Why do you say that? In this way you will have a better understanding of the complaints and reasons for the other's displeasure. Often it appears that strong feelings and resentment are behind the criticism, and the remark itself is not the end goal, and there is really something else bothering the person. For example, someone may be angry, not with the fact that you arrived ten minutes late, but with the experience that you are not taking them seriously.

#2. Put aside all emotion and think - is there any truth in the criticism directed at you? Maybe they are quite constructive remarks. It's hard to accept that you're doing something wrong or that your lifestyle isn't the right one... But it's an important step to overcome the situation. Feel the difference: were the words spoken only to hurt you? Or is there something to be gained from them? Maybe you really are dressed or behaving inappropriately for the situation or status, and with his remark the other person did a big favor, and you got an opportunity to become a better person.

#3. Learn to accept the other person's opinion, even if you don't share it. You may not change your behavior because you don't agree with the criticism, but at least acknowledge that there is a different, acceptable opinion and avoid being attacked.

#4. If you realize that there is some truth in the remarks and the criticism is earned - work on yourself. For example: "You're right, I'm regularly very late; it looks like it's time to set two alarm clocks so I don't oversleep."

#5. Don't be afraid to tell the truth and set boundaries. Be brave enough to talk about how you feel - you don't like hearing comments about yourself, explain what it was that hurt and upset you. This way you'll protect yourself from future barbs, and indicate what kind of communication you think is unacceptable.

#6. Criticism as a source of information about the person. Or every cloud has a silver lining. Remind yourself of a simple truth: Comments about others often say more about the commenter than about the person being criticized. Use the comment as a source of information about the person who gave it. Remain calm, and you will learn a great deal about the person. Note that someone who is used to upsetting others, rather than encouraging or supporting them, is an unhappy person in himself. You should not take his words to heart.

DECONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM
It is worth admitting, very often the criticism sounds incorrect, and the angry "accuser" resorts to humiliation, insults and uses words that exaggerate and distort reality. In these cases, it is possible to acknowledge a fraction of the truth, but not to agree with the inflated facts. For example: "You forgot to pick up the bag. You always ruin everything!" "It's true that I forgot it, but there are plenty of things I do just fine!" In this way, you are admitting the transgression, but you are also not lowering your self-esteem.