1. Remember that opposites don't attract.
Of course, you can have different hobbies and views, but only as long as they do not invade the territory of the partner's key worldview positions. The joint life of a supporter of patriarchal views and a feminist, a monarchist and a liberal, and even fans of Spartak and CSKA is unlikely to be cloudless. In key questions, you must look, according to the precepts of Exupery, in one direction.

2. Set the rules
Agreements are not a desire to limit someone's freedom, this is an attempt to develop a common language that your couple speaks. Your partner’s views on the distribution of responsibilities, financial issues, the possibility of sex on the side, joint and separate holidays, and even who goes to the shower first in the morning, can be completely different from yours. It is not necessary to wait for a major quarrel to find out what he thinks about this. Set rules ahead of time and follow them.

3. Hear someone else's "no"
There is no need to do "as best" if the partner has clearly expressed his disagreement with something. "No" does not mean "maybe" or "yes, but I want to be persuaded."

4. Don't Tolerate a Partner Who Does Nasty Things to Teach You a Lesson
Taking the position of a teacher, a person ceases to be an equal partner and begins to act from the point of view of a higher level, a subject who is allowed more. What's next? Will he give you grades and expel you from home for poor performance? Someone who intentionally makes you feel guilty is not good for a relationship.

5. Don't try to be smart
You have probably heard advice from the series: “Be smarter, keep quiet and do it your way”, “Just do it, then she will understand that it’s better this way.” These are all tricks and manipulations that harm relationships. If you cannot openly agree and continue to do what is unacceptable for your half, you should either reconsider your position or change your partner.

6. Do not require telepathic abilities from a partner
Nature gave man a speech apparatus, use it for its intended purpose. Tell your partner what you like and dislike, what you expect, what actions upset you. And certainly you should not blame a person for not knowing what you are offended by.

7. Solve problems without involving a third party
No need to run for advice to parents, friends or anonymous people on the forum. You always know better what is happening in a relationship, since it is you who know all the circumstances of the conflict.

Suppose you nevertheless turned to your mother for support and she agreed that your partner is wrong and generally a bad person. Only you and the offender will then make peace, and for your mother (friend, the entire Internet), he will remain a scoundrel.

8. Take out the rubbish from the hut
At first glance, this advice contradicts the previous one, but it is not. If you find yourself unable to cope with problems in a couple, you should seek help. With suddenly emerging different views on life, a psychologist will help to cope. In case of mental or physical abuse, seek help wherever possible: from friends, in special centers, in the police. Not everyone has the resources to get out of an abuse situation on their own.

9. Don't Compare Your Relationships to Books and Movies
Stop trying to repeat a love story from your favorite movie, book, and even more so a fairy tale. You are not Cinderella and the Prince, you are not Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth Bennet (or Bridget Jones), you are not Tony Stark and Pepper Potts, your relationship develops differently, and that's okay.

And then, before plunging into the vanilla abyss called "happily ever after", the characters go through a series of difficulties, because the conflict is the engine of the plot. Create your own "happily ever after" without serial wisdom and without regard to the fantasies of screenwriters and writers.

10. Move at your own pace
Even if all your friends got married a year after they met, after two they had a baby, after five they bought a house in the suburbs suitable for a large family, it is not necessary to try to cram your relationship into a similar scenario. Each couple moves at their own pace, just keep going.

11. Don't Ignore Warning Signals
In most relationships, there is a presentation period when both partners try to appear better than they really are. And if already at the candy-bouquet stage you see danger signals, do not ignore them, trust your intuition.

Unreasonable outbursts of aggression, rudeness towards waiters, unflattering remarks about exes and other things that bother you can easily be written off as “it seemed” and “he / she will improve.” Most likely, it didn’t seem to you and your partner will not improve. Soberly think about whether you are ready to face such negative manifestations on a regular basis.

12. Check if relationships make life easier
If your love story consists entirely of difficulties, overcoming, quarrels and rare but bright bouts of happiness, this is unhealthy.th relationship. People quickly become accustomed to emotional swings, when despair and delight alternate, and can consider themselves quite satisfied with this.

But answer yourself honestly: does your partner make your life easier or complicate it? Do you feel happy more often than unhappy? Don't wait for your love's Titanic to sink, get on the boat. Otherwise, you may not have enough space on the saving door.

13. Leave each other personal space
Not everything that people come into a relationship with becomes shared. Reserve the right to conduct private correspondence, have personal savings that you spend on things you only need, and engage in your favorite hobby. And most importantly, your partner can do all this too. Just accept it.

14. Don't chase the ghosts of your ex.
If you didn't meet in kindergarten, your partner most likely already had a relationship. Just leave them in the past, you don’t need to constantly compare yourself with the former, check their pages on social networks and count how many likes they give to your half.

By the way, you probably had a relationship too. And forget about them too. It is very easy to begin to idealize the person with whom you had a romantic story. But consider this: if an ex was great, he wouldn't be an ex.

15. Do not consider jealousy as an indicator of high feelings.
The requirement to stop communicating with all persons of the opposite sex, ambiguous reactions to every glance in the direction of an attractive person, attempts to control correspondence do not indicate great love and fear of losing a partner. This is a way of control and the very alarm signal that should not be ignored.

16. Talk about love
Have you confessed your feelings to your partner once and do you think that this is enough? Do not take the person next to you for granted, be grateful that he chose you. Remind that you love, say compliments. It's simple and free, but a very valuable token.