In this blog, I will show you how to have such a conversation and how to support your partner if he wants to get rid of bad habits.

Start by asking to speak at a time that is convenient for both of you. Ask your partner to set aside time for you and explain that you have an important issue to discuss.

Do it in a calm and stress-free environment. It is best to talk about the problem of bad habits in a calm and comfortable place where both partners can feel comfortable.

Use I-messages, not You-messages. When talking with a partner about his bad habits, it is better to use the constructions “I feel”, “I see”, “I noticed”, and not “You do”, “You must”.

Do not criticize your partner, but express your feelings and concerns. The conversation should not turn into a confrontation, and if you want your partner to understand you, it is important to talk about your feelings, and not about his actions.

Support your partner and help him. If your partner wants to get rid of bad habits, support him, show that you are ready to help, and perhaps together you will find a solution to this problem.

Try not to resort to ultimatums. Ultimatums can cause stress and negative emotions in a partner, so try talking to your partner about the problem of bad habits without them.

Remember that the process of getting rid of bad habits can take time. This doesn't happen overnight, and it's important to remember that your partner needs your support and understanding.