It may seem that the house is just a space for relaxation, so if there is a mess in it, then it's okay, the rest of the areas of life look like separate examples of success and growth. Only there is also confusion: the work has not been happy for a long time, you communicate with those who are not interesting to you, there is always not enough money, a bright future does not come. All this speaks of the habit of man to surround himself with chaos and disorder. He is so used to it, he is “normal”, even likes it sometimes. Of course, he made such a choice - to live surrounded by chaos - not just like that, but for certain reasons.

Fear of change
If we exclude the clinical and psychiatric component, then the first thing that such a lifestyle speaks of is the presence of a fear of novelty in a person. The littering of space in this case is a kind of attempt to stop time, to create the illusion of security. Buried in a mass of unnecessary things, attitudes and attitudes, a person thus deprives himself of the opportunity to encounter something new, freely moving, alive. He clings to the past, in everyday terms he “attaches” himself to old things (even if it is unnecessary trash), simply because their energy is already familiar to him. And to let something new into your own life is, firstly, scary, and secondly, hard. First, you will have to clear the blockages of the accumulated "junk", and this is an effort on yourself, the cost of your own emotions, time and effort. It's not easy, in general. Once again, the circle begins again in an atmosphere of familiar routine, and the changes are shifted to the next month or year.
The trick is that for real change in life, “decluttering” is necessary. It is not for nothing that all courses on rebooting begin with the recommendation to “free up space and make room for something new.” In the mess there is no place for the “new”, but there is an understandable “old”, among which, perhaps, it is uncomfortable, but understandable and predictable. And do not console yourself with the thought that this is the desired stability. It will be much more effective to admit to yourself that the disorder is your response, the protective shell that you use to hide behind the fear of change. Try not to lie to yourself: and after honesty will come a clear understanding of your needs, and you will be able to afford the desired changes.

Draw a border
Chaotically scattered things is also a story about personal boundaries. In this way, a person tries to remind himself and others that he exists, and that he is something. “At least, I created this chaos,” such an explanation for oneself in this situation would be quite logical.

Disorder in the home and in life is also a form of protest: against rigid parental rules or partner restrictions. “This is my space and it will be the way I decided, and not the way my parents demanded.” If a person has long passed the age of majority and does not live with his parents, the craving for littering may be a consequence of being “stuck” in adolescence, when the protest was not shown and still requires a way out. Driven inside, such rebelliousness can be expressed in slovenliness in everyday life, disorder in the apartment and, as a result, lead to conflicts in a couple.

Whichever of the reasons is not the root of the problem, in any case, the habit of living in a mess always highlights the presence of certain psychological deformations. Understanding and working with the latter is necessary if you want to make your life more pleasant and harmonious.