domestic helplessness
Do you want to be a mother to your man? It is worth considering if you constantly have to solve small problems, constantly ask for help in the household, or do everything for your partner. Imagine a teenager in his place. Will there be a change in his behavior?

Irresponsibility and "lightness"
The key and best quality of a man is responsibility. It rarely happens in the absolute form “a man said - a man did”, the situation is changing, plans are being adjusted, but still the statistics are accumulating quite quickly. Does he keep his word, even when it comes to small things? Do you tend to think before making commitments? It can be difficult to know how often he fulfills them, but if a person easily and quickly subscribes to new affairs and plans, most likely he assumes that he can just as easily abandon them. Sometimes it is flexibility, and sometimes infantilism. The child can “just change his mind”, the plans and expectations of other people are not so interesting to him. Today is more important for an infantile than tomorrow.

Self-esteem that is not true
Why does your partner respect himself? For what actions, personal qualities? Ask him about it directly. Listen and compare if his answer matches what you see. The second, much sharper, question is: “What does he not like about himself?” The more a man or woman is friends with objective reality, the better. Everyone has negative sides, and everyone has reasons and reasons to be proud. The capacity for self-respect and self-criticism is the first step to success.

Unfounded accusation of past partners
How does he feel about his ex? Infantile people always have one criterion: "Others are to blame for my problems." Today he criticizes one, and tomorrow he may criticize you. Perhaps the problem really was in his girlfriend? Could it be that he was just unlucky? Do not forget that in all problematic relationships, responsibility to one degree or another lies with both people. The word “responsibility” is not repeated in vain, because it is one of the most important markers of adulthood.

Unhealthy relationship with parents
Watch his relationship with his parents. Both excessive closeness and constant conflict should raise questions. Each person grows up and lives their own life. Yes, he communicates with his parents, yes, he helps and cares, but he makes decisions himself. A quarrel between an adult man and mom or dad (if this is not a sharply negative situation) means that such a relationship is beyond healthy, and it should be discussed with a specialist. In the process of psychological study, most clients somehow improve relations with their parents, therefore, problems in the family are a sign of the partner’s internal problems.

Ask questions, listen, pay attention, think and choose. You can build relationships with an adult partner, or you can turn out to be a “mother” without noticing it. Most likely, if this happens, then it will be as difficult to change the situation as it is to “rebuild” a person. It is much easier to immediately try to determine whether a man suits you or not, and not waste your time.