Underestimation of non-verbal cues
Intimacy is more than just sex. Remember yourself in moments of stormy love - you probably wanted to snuggle up tight to your beloved and not let him go. In marriage, we often forget about the power of touch. A gentle hug, an encouraging pat on the back, a gentle stroking on the hand triggers the production of oxytocin, which is called the “hormone of love”.

And what about the posture and facial expressions during communication with her husband? Furrowed brows and crossed arms? If so, then most likely you can hear metallic notes in your tone. Why do you need all these signals of aggression? You are not on the battlefield. You are next to the man you love. Relax the muscles in your arms and face. Close your eyes for a couple of seconds and imagine your husband as a knight on a white horse (superman, bullfighter, underline as necessary). Now open your eyes and smile fervently. Do you feel positive energy coming from you?

Competitive spirit
Acting like team members rather than competitors is one of the best marriage strategies. “It’s not bad to compete in the workplace or in sports,” explains sex therapist Douglas Brooks. - But the competition in pairs is not the healthiest thing to do. Enjoy each other and keep the competitive spirit outside of your relationship."

Evil irony
People with a good sense of humor usually boast a good level of intelligence. But the passion for sarcastic remarks in a conversation with a partner can lead to an increase in irritation and the appearance of open aggression. Psychologist Clifford Lazarus defines sarcasm as "hostility disguised as humor". Of course, a couple of ironic remarks can enliven communication, but being carried away by caustic witticisms, you risk being in the role of a toxic interlocutor. Sarcasm in large quantities suppresses goodwill, and in such a situation it is unlikely that your partner will feel like your protection and support.

Following the established rules
“A man is obliged to fully provide for his family”, “Decent couples do grocery shopping together”, “A loving spouse gives flowers not only on holidays”, and so on and so forth. Some publications regularly publish articles under headlines like "50 Signs of a Perfect Husband," but are you sure you want to live by these rules? Perhaps it would be much better, together with your loved one, to think and develop your own standards for your happy family life, in which everyone will do what they do best. After all, if you get lost in the store, then why are you going there? To just uselessly roll the cart? Isn't it easier to write a list to your man, and at the same time do something useful?