There are no perfectly matched people. We think that most of us already understand this: any of our partners, no matter how magnificent he may seem, at least in some way, is not suitable for us. It may be the simplest little thing, and yet it exists. At the beginning of a relationship, it is smoothed out by a feeling of elated love, and then it is polished by our ability to compromise and, more importantly, achieve it.

But this is the ideal scenario for a healthy and self-sufficient relationship. In very advanced cases, we can often observe how such insurmountable tension reigns between spouses or partners that one can only wonder how they manage to get along together at all. This is usually visible right away. It is impossible to be with them when they are together: an atmosphere of hostility, disagreement and absolute indifference towards each other is in the air. And the worst thing is that neither a compromise, nor a psychologist, nor trainings can help them. For them, there is only one way out - to admit that they do not love each other, and disperse.

Not everyone is given to find their love the first time. Most often, before meeting the man of our dreams, we go through a whole leapfrog of love adventures: either we fall in love unrequitedly, then we create unsuccessful couples, then we go through a period of total loneliness, then we associate ourselves with bastards, then we go to parties and bars in vain in search of a gentleman . It is not surprising that this series sooner or later tires us so much that we just want to marry “at least someone” in order to calm down and cut the vicious circle.

All our lives we want to perpetuate the best moments of our existence. We aspire to get a convertible that friends drove us, or to move to a country that we fell in love with while we were there as tourists. Why? Because all these things or places are associated with a happy time that you once had a chance to experience. It's the same with people: we have a great time with a partner, enjoying every minute with him, and mistakenly believe that marriage can perpetuate this feeling. As if marriage is a sterilized jar in which love can be preserved. Of course, this is not so. Marriage never had and never will have the power to turn a fleeting sensation into something permanent and monumental. This is impossible: after all, the whole surge of romantic emotions that you experienced next to your partner at the dawn of your relationship was associated with a certain entourage, the unknown and the unusualness of everything that was happening. Marriage will not be able to give you unusual moments in the order of the conveyor: on the contrary, there will be life, there will be an apartment on the outskirts of the city, children, expenses, and so on. But your partner will remain, who will always be permanent. And, perhaps, it is at this moment that you will realize that once upon a time that fabulous moment was not created by him at all.