Important components of a long and harmonious relationship are the common interests of partners. Even if a guy and a girl have just started dating, they should have "something to talk about."

Common joint hobbies are what two people do together, together, getting mutual pleasure from this action.

Example A girl loves shopping, and her boyfriend goes shopping with her to support his beloved. That is, they act together. But this cannot be called a joint goal or interest, because only the girl clearly gets the pleasure from shopping.
Each person has his own circle of hobbies, someone likes one thing, someone else. It's great when a couple has common things that allow them to spend time together. Some couples try to spend all their free time together and are actively interested in the desires of their partner, while others, on the contrary, prefer to have both joint and personal hobbies. The main thing is to find a balance, that is, something that suits both.
How to find common goals
Psychologists say that couples who come for counseling complain that they have nothing to talk about, it’s embarrassing to feel close if there is no child nearby. And they forget that each of them is an interesting personality with his own outlook and intellect.

To find common goals and interests in a relationship:

Talk to your significant other and discuss what each of you likes
Improve your skills, learn new things
Learn to negotiate with each other
Ask your partner about his hobbies and try to join his hobbies, maybe you will like it too
Then try to attract your other half to your hobbies.

What to do if family hobbies do not match
As a rule, women are more worried if they find a difference in common interests and goals. Trust your intuition, if you feel good next to your partner, you are easy and calm in his presence, you have something to talk about and keep quiet, then everything is in order - there is no need to artificially try to find common hobbies and show interest in them through force.

Here are some tips for couples who have different hobbies and want to find more common ground.

Come up with new traditions. For example, once a week, first you, then your spouse takes turns preparing a surprise for you, calling you on a date, or having an unusual evening. It is not necessary to invest a lot of money in joint leisure time - these can be very simple things, connect a little imagination and everything will work out.
If you have completely different goals in life and interests, then agree that you spend one evening as your spouse wants, and the second as you want.
Do not criticize your partner's hobbies. So you will only increase the "chasm" between you. If you don’t like what your other half is doing, then it’s better to discuss it calmly, without getting personal. It won't be possible to ban it any more.
A strong family is a union of two people who cherish the common spiritual comfort, respect the interests and hobbies of the spouse, know how to make concessions and negotiate. Support is the key to trust and understanding.
Important! Some couples live quietly without common goals and interests. If you are comfortable when you are minding your own business, and your spouse is yours, you do not need to specifically come up with joint goals and interests.
The main thing is that you feel comfortable.
I hope my blog helped you
Have a nice time of the day
Your Lady Anna